The "4 Yall" Update pt. 1

Ok so we are 20 posts in and closing in on 1000 views. While that is great we are some what conceited and love to have that extra "this is the shit" boost. So we just want to know, do you like it, love it, want some more of it? Or are we jus flat out boring and lame and you are sad you wasted your time reading these blogs when you could have been doing something valuable with your time?

To those who do read and comment we love the support and the love you've shown, again ego boost are always good for any three headed monster like this Ghidorah fam. We do this not only for our selves but for yall, If theres anything you want to hear discussed let us know, via email, text, facebook, twitter. If you are willing to communicate with us we are more than willing to return the love. Already we have hit you with some hard hitting topics, some of our individual mindsets, stuff to play around, and our passion for movies. We will bring more of that and some, we are kicking around new ideas and coming up with ways to keep you all entertained and enjoying your every visit. Hopefully our topics/views dont offend you, and if they do... I'm sry you too sensitive(lol... but really tho). We are here to have fun and express ourselves and hopefully you will express youself too because we all love having something to talk about.

Until the next "4 Yall" Update

Marriage... What's the Rush?

Everyone thinks about it at least once. I'm currently at the age when people start asking questions and making jokes about it, and these comments actually begin to weigh on me. I personally do not feel ready for marriage.... Main reason is me being single. Yeah, I'm single and I'm perfectly okay with it (for the time being). I feel like I can wait a little bit longer. I want it to be right. I want it to be right. I want to be on the positive end of the statistic. I want what I've seen my entire life: A growing loving relationship.
I will admit to having a life plan back when I was 18. I wanted to have graduated from college at the age of 23 at the latest. Have a house by the age of 24 and have my own company in the works. be married to my college sweetheart by 26 and start having kids by the age of 28. I thought about all this. I had it mapped out in my mind and at the age of 25 I have not accomplished any of this. As sad as this may be, I'm okay right now. I already had my mental ( and physical) meltdown. There is nothing wrong with having made plans for your life. You are suppose to do things like this, but at least make them realistic. Include a margin of error (an incredibly huge margin of error). Set backs will occur in life. But you can't get down because of them. I learned a lot in my so called "lack of success." I've gained quite a bit of knowledge, appreciation and patience on my journey up until now. I'm still learning now, and I'm happy.

I'm setting this up to say that I see no rush in getting married. As much as I want to blame women for this (because that is what popular culture has programmed me to think), I can't because we men are at fault for this too. My number one, main reason as to why I advice people not to rush into marriage is this: Why rush to make a decision to spend the rest of your life with someone? That's what I think about. Why do it? What's the rush? Where is this person going?

There are the people who want to be married and are dating people who aren't even thinking about marriage and therefore don't want to be married. Do you seriously have to drag these people into marrying you? How appealing is that? You don't have to break up with these people cause they said they don't want to get married. Is this a serious deal breaker? Especially if the two of you haven't even established the fact that you could live together happily (as possible) ever after. Why do people rush to make these rash decisions off the thought of marriage? Give it some time, I'm sure if you are the right person for them then their minds will change. I do understand that there are situations where they won't change their minds, but if this is the only issue, then state your case as to why you want to be married and have them state their case. See if you can work it out for the better good of the relationship.

Women make these claims that if your boyfriend is with you for a certain number of years and has not brought up marriage or asked you to marry him, then he probably never will and you should dump him and start over. This is stupid. You don't know what is going on in his head. My question is why place these ridiculous time lines on things? Apparently you like each other, that's the only reason why I would be willing to invest more than a month of my time with someone. Maybe he hasn't brought up marriage because he can't afford it. Suppose he wants to give you your dream wedding, with all the bells and whistle but he can't afford it. He doesn't want to spend his honeymoon phase with you struggling to make ends meet cause the wedding and honeymoon blew the budget wide open and then some. Weddings are expensive. I also don't know many instances were the woman had to pay much for one. Also, there are these high expectations on engagement rings and popping the question.....

Engagement Rings- (this has to be because I don't know any better) These have to be one of the more unnecessary gestures and symbols of marriage to me. I understand that an engagement ring is a symbol of the engagement, but come on!!!! Is the size of the ring really a symbol of how much I love you? If this is the case then we don't need to be together. Clearly the way you want me to represent my love to you and the actual way I show my love to you are not on the same page and this is not going to work. An object should never ever show how much you love someone. That's not true love. If you are getting married because you want a big ring and so and so can get you that big ring then you need to find a corner and re-evaluate your life.

I really don't want to break down my idea of marriage right now. I just want to know what is the rush to get married (What is the rush to be grown period. I'm questioning myself RIGHT NOW as to why I wanted so badly to leave my parent's house on one of my occasional childish rants. I truly appreciate my freedom, but I appreciate the journey it took for me to obtain a true appreciation for it and all it involves.). The rush to get married is just crazy to me. I don't know where the fantasy of it all comes in.

I'll argue this point on many occasions, but I don't see why people make decisions purely based off their emotions. They completely forget that they have a mind to reason, think, and plan. Just because you think you love someone, or you feel you love someone doesn't actually mean that you do. It also doesn't mean that if you do, that this is the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. There is a reason why the divorce rate is so high. Rushing into a decision has rarely proven to be a good decision. People of sound mind and successful people rarely make rash decisions.
I think people have gotten caught up in the fantasy of the actual wedding day and the events of the honeymoon that they fail to actually think about what happens after the two. The living together under one roof. The joint accounts. The not doing whatever you want to whenever you want to do it. The raising of the children (sure we think about the "baby making" process but we don't actually put the baby in the equation). It's not all smiles. Marriage takes work. I don't know why we act like it isn't another relationship. Relationships are commitments and invested time in one another, there really is no room for complacency in any relationship. It's always in a constant state of needing improvement because we can all better ourselves.

I personally think marriage requires a certain mentality reserved for mature people who are compatible with one another. What does it say about a person who "falls in love" with the dude she has sex with and decides to marry him, and he is cool with it, so he agrees and they set off to get married. His and her parents are okay with it for whatever reasons and they allow or support these two people to be married. Three months later it magically doesn't work out and they break up (forgetting that they actually need to have a divorce) but now a baby is on the way. I seriously doubt that any of this was in the fantasy.

I also can't stand when men think they want to be married for the wrong reasons too. The guys that don't really want to be with their girlfriend, but can't stand the thought of her being with anyone else but him. Why propose to someone you really have no intention of spending the rest of your life with? How flawed is your logic? What's worse is the man who does this and wants this woman to relocate her life to where he is, only for him to change his mind during her trip. This is extremely messed up. You knew that you didn't want to be married to this person yet you put them and yourself through more crap because you don't know how to make up your mind at an appropriate time. Put your brain in the head it needs to be in.

I really don't see the rush in getting married. To me it has too many negative effects to it for me to not want to involve myself in any rash thinking. I take marriage very serious, and because I do I want to make sure that the woman I decide to marry is the right one for me. I want her to help me with the struggles of life and not place more struggles on me.

-VP

Back in the day when i was young...

Im not a kid any more but some days......... you ever wish you could go back... back to a time when it was about having fun, not jus playing out side but slightly older than that... before it became about sex and money in this world... before you were corrupted to wha SOCIETY feels is right... a time when just being with your friends doing silly isht... a time when what the radio played really was the HOTTEST ish tyou ever heard... when you used to record the radio mixes jus so you could bump that isht like you made it... a time when you knew that fuckin street light was on and the was YO ASS... better yet you knew being 5 min after 11 on game night would be the last time you go out til ya moms said so... well i wanna go back to a time when yo get out on a friday... just had an ok week but not great... football game would be a good one... but in the back of your mind all you cared about was.......... you were out on MONDAY...... now i dont know about yall or tha city you from or what might have jumped off in your area.... but wha i do know is that when we were out on a monday when i was a fresh-jr in highskool that meant only one thing......... "Nigga SUNDAY... I'm goin to SENOR FROG!!!" Look when i tell you that it was hands down the most bestest (i kno nigga, i kno) club experience EVER in LIFE... i am SO not lyin... Teen night at senor frog nigga?!?!?! to this day i still compare clubs to it and to this day only one club has come CLOSE (but that was in miami so yea) i mean people from ALL over the city of B'ham would come out to HOOVER to party like they were 21+... you we'rent worryin bout who im tryin to fuck tonite(well not in all cases), it wasnt about how much is this drink, didnt care if the line was super long, didnt even matter if niggas was in there reppin... because that night all that mattered was listenin to good music, dancin wit wha ever girl was poppin, and showin out on sumbody tryin to stunt on the dance floor... forget tryin to get pussy... we took it back to 1988 on that azz "bet $5 i can get more numbers than yall!" and when i say good music i mean classic isht you jus dont get anymore... classic club songs that bumped for atleast 5 yrs that dont get play period now... sad really... matter a fact lemme give you a small list of sum Kilo Ali - Show Me Love, Love In Ya Mouth, Nasty Dancer, White Horse, Go Shawty Go Ying Yang - Ying Yang In This Thang, Whistle While You Twerk, Say I Yi Ya Raheem - Freak No Mo, Most Beautiful Girl 2 Live Crew - Hoochie Mama, So Horny, Face Down Azz Up, Shake A Lil Somethin 69 Boyz - Da Train, Booty Drop, Tootsee Roll, Here Kitty Kitty Lil Jon - Shawty Freak a Lil Somethin, I Like Them Guls(hoes) Various(basically i dont know they name) :That Girl, Freak Nasty - Da Dip, Juvenile - Back That Azz Up, Scrub The Ground, Shorty Swing My Way, Dickey Ride, Pussy Ride ok lemme stop for i give yall the entire club playlist lol (but if u really want it holla at me lol)... but still that was when they played song to sweat weaves out, leave pit stains, and make a nigga hit the shower as soon as they walk in the door cuz it was a workout from the time you walked in til the time you left... now you cant go to a club without worry'n about dress code, or wondering whos gonna fight, always gotta watch out for that drunk nigga/hoe bumpin into you wastin ya drink, people burnin you with whaeva they smokin (sry i love my blacks DEAL WIT IT), gotta worry if ya car gonna get jacked while you havin a good time, questionin wha side of town you own, gotta worry bout the Po Po (call tha Po Po Ho!), wha happened to just going out and having a good time at the club without all the drama and stress... the most i used to worry about is do i want to take enough money to get 2 bottles of water or one... didnt have to impress anybody and didnt care who you didnt impress... females were on some coo isht (very few, beat box, attitudes), niggas were on a more respectful tip cuz they were tryin to get numbers instead of actin like they the hardest nigga in tha joint(which is pointless.... ima get back at that at a later blog though)........... man...... ...I sit and wish i was a kid again!

Music is for LIFE

I can't recall the first song I ever heard, but I imagine I was in moms womb nodding while waiting on my 3rd breakfast. My earliest memories of music in my life consist of my grandmother humming hymnals as I sat or laid next to her, my mom blowing the church away with her solos (I used to think she was going to get a record deal...lol), her blasting (specifically) Anita Baker, Sade, and Bobby Brown in the house, riding with pops as he *attempted* and failed horribly to sing along with the GAP Band, Teddy P, Earth Wind & Fire, etc.; and being exposed to classical music and the specific sounds each instrument makes by my aunt who is the most musically inclined member of the family. Music has always been more than just sounds to me.....it's my happy place, my time capsule, my comfort zone, a big part of my foundation. When I grew older, my appreciation and love for it grew along with me. When I got my first job, I would say 60-70% of what I earned went to Coconuts (the local record store in walking distance from the house). And this is before the digital age took over, so I was buying at least 1 cd a week....anything that intuitively LOOKED like it sounded good even if I had never heard of the artist before....it didn't matter. I loved to dig for music and find gems. 90% of the time I walked right past the "Top 10" rack. It was like Christmas to me every time I bought a record. Couldn't wait to get it out of the store, rip the packaging off (which was the most frustrating crap in the world), pop the record in and let it spin while I read the liner notes, admired the cover art, and read the "thank you's". It was a very important ritual for me and just writing about it brings those feelings back......crazy. I ALWAYS had a pair of headphones....I've spent almost as much money on headphones that I have music. I had to have the best (or the closest thing to it) because if the sound wasn't right, I could tell easily. And I appreciate my mom for letting me live loud and never telling me to turn down my music...because hers was just as loud :-)

I feel sorry for kids who will never have the opportunity to experience that. Due to everything going digital, it's all instantly available at the click of your mouse, so record stores like Coconuts that were once a haven for people like myself are an endangered species. I've had no problem adjusting to the times, but it's kind of sad and nostalgic when I think about it. I still dig.....I just go about it a different way now.

So with that said, I'd like to share with you 5 albums that were pivotal in my life:

1. ATLiens - Outkast

If you even remotely know me, you know that I'm a hip hop head to the core.

This was the foundation for everything that I love and appreciate about hip hop. I was 11 or 12 when I first heard it and at that age I could actually comprehend things that were being discussed in the music. It was so amazing to me that these two guys were from a place that was right next door to where I was and they were able to have such a huge impact musically. The production is flawless....makes you dance, sounds dope on a good system or stereo. Plus they actually had SOMETHING TO SAY....AND they were skilled and clever in the way they said it. Sounded like nothing I had ever heard (or ever would hear). I was hooked...

2. What's Going On - Marvin Gaye

Marvin is my favorite artist of all time hands down. The passion he had for people in general radiated through the music. Plus his ability to discuss social and personal issues so vividly and honestly captivated me. The fact that the same things he sang about then can be applied to present-day conditions is too dope...almost like a Bob Marley minus the accent. But I gravitate more to Marvin simply because he is sonically more appealing. His whole sound was like water to me. The way he was able to use his voice as an instrument always gave me chills. The G.O.A.T.

3. Kind of Blue - Miles Davis

One word: Undeniable. I stole this album from my mom shortly before I started college and it made it to school with me. If ever there was a record I could play backwards and forwards, it is this joint. Timeless music. I walked around campus to it, studied to it, slept to it, made love to it, cried to it, lost it, found it again....this record saw me through some of my most trying times and has just been part of my life for years. It NEVER gets old....takes me all kinds of places without the assistance of drugs or alcohol.

4. Breath From Another - Esthero

This record is probably a huge reason for my diverse music collection and why I can listen to anything as long as it's quality. It is what you would call "trip-hop"....basically a fusion of any type of music you can think of. No boundaries. No formulas. Just music. Esthero's voice is beautifully hypnotizing....sultry and damn near erotic. Original, creative, and true. My cousin (same one who introduced me to 'Kast) laced me with this record when I was in 9th grade when he was home one weekend from college. It's 10 years later and it has yet to fade into obscurity....still in rotation like I just bought it a week ago.

5. The Minstrel Show - Little Brother

I went through a bit of a hip hop renaissance of sorts around 2004-2005. I found what I like to call "blue collar music". This record and this group is almost solely responsible for my change in the way I listened to hip hop music. Here you have three guys from North Carolina who seemingly effortlessly put out consistently good music and all they did was talk about their everyday lives. Things that you and I face daily as "regular" people. No bottles popping, "braggadocia", money, guns, etc....yet they still have a ball with their music and it shows and the masses can still identify with them without them having to sell out or sugar coat. That blew my mind because it's rare that you can have that package. The album has a running concept based on a fictional television network called "UBN" (U Black Niggas Network), which is a satire of stereotypical programs and advertisements. Many of the skits contain tongue-in-cheek references to black pop culture in America. Hilarious, thought-provoking, and the music.......dope beats. dope rhymes.

- GB

Monkey See, Monkey Do

I wanted to talk about this reality TV garbage and all these rapper groupies and athlete groupies spilling every one's secrets. I remember watching MTV saying to myself that Real World had to be one of the greatest television shows in the world, and it was at that time. It really was raw and real and presented a lot of questions and some insight into other people's lives. You have 7 people around or in their early twenties living in the same house for a certain period of time. It was a really good show. Watching people actually live in a house with a homosexual who happened to have AIDS. You cannot ask for better television than that. It wasn't just about the drama, it was real. Real World started off as a really good show. Over the years reality television has gotten stupid. Let's run down the list of the recent stupid ones (These are the shows i find stupid, if you like them then that's you, but this is my post) - Flavor of Love - I Love New York - Real Chance of Love - I Love Money - Baldwin Heights - The Hills - Keeping Up with the Kardashians - Jersey Shore - The Real Housewives (of anyplace) - Tiny and Toya - The Bad Girl's Club etc. These shows are ridiculous. Why do we watch this crap? There isn't anything behind them. You don't learn or grow from any of these stupid shows. No, not every show is designed for educational or enlightening purposes. Many shows are just for our entertainment and pleasure, but why do we find these shows entertaining? They are just full of drama and ignorance. Why saturate or minds with this crap for no real reason just so we can shake our heads and hit the social network to praise and bash these people. We praise and support these clowns for what purpose? Seriously who was Kim Kardashian before the sex tape? I didn't know who she was, and I could care less about her family. Yes they are beautiful women but I can care less about their lives, they are not interesting to me. Tiny and Toya???? Who cares, Tiny had a career and now she just takes care of kids ( I know she does other stuff, but again, I DON'T CARE). The Real Housewives.... this is so stupid... Do we seriously care about people who do nothing? When have people who do nothing become interesting? The Surreal Life spawned a series of ridiculous shows (Strange Love, 3 seasons of Flavor of Love, 2 seasons of I Love New York, 2-3 seasons of I Love Money, 3 seasons of Rock of Love, Charmed School, Real Chance of Love, The Entertainer's show, 3 seasons of Shot of Love.... and maybe some other ones I failed to mention). Monkey See, Monkey Do.... It has really gotten out of hand, it's stupid, mindless cheap "entertainment." I can't call it entertainment cause it barely holds my interest. I just don't get it, it's nothing new, nothing fresh, so why are people interested in it? But the WORST case of monkey see, monkey do to me right now is some fool trying to follow in the same steps as Karrine "Superhead" Steffens.... Kat Stacks, you are a clown. What Karrine did was not cool. Exposing people doesn't just make them look bad, but it makes you look bad, and takes away more credibility from you than it does them. Think about how that makes you look as a person. What are you trying to accomplish by exposing your sexual encounters with these various celebrities and athletes? She wrote 3 books. Three books for being a very very very loose woman. It's crazy. I know this makes interesting reading but where is your sense of honor? Of self respect and pride? I've heard Karrine in various interviews and radio shows, and she isn't all that bad. She saw a market and she had a product to sell and she can provide for her family. It wasn't the most moral thing to do, but it happened. Then came the Tiger Wood's scandal... moving on.... Now I hear about this girl, Kat Stacks.... seriously this girl is barely 21 and is out running her mouth, for what? She is just following suit behind Karrine but I see no purpose behind what she is doing. It's crazy, She just wants fame. That's exactly what it boils down to. People want exposure and fame. They want the by product of success, something they have not accomplished. I like what Melyssa Ford said: I guess what I'm trying to say is.... Be careful of who you follow, why you follow them, and your definition of success is. Do you really want success or do you want to be another face in everyone's camera and another annoying voice on the radio? Seeking fame over success only makes you look like a fool. If a fool is what you want to be, then I guess that's all on you. I know it doesn't feel good to have fingers pointed and you and lyrical bullets flying at your head. Be mindful of how your actions affect you and your loved ones -VP

F*CK what you heard...

Despite of what my two brilliant friends say... BLAST A MUUUUUUFUCKA... if that hoe cheat... dont jus put her name on the song/blog/tweet/status put her phone number and address too... if that nigga give you somethin MAKE SURE you let the hole WURRRL know... cant let these evil lil bas-tids get away with doing us dirty... if that krazy hoe key yo car... call all yo homegirls n get that bit JUMPED at her mama house... dont hold back... if he flirt wit yo mama, dont jus key his car bust all the windows and tires too... that way he cant even get to yo mama house no more... if you mama ground yo tell everybody how she cheated all the way thru college in an email to her boss... if you daddy tell you to do sumthin take it to facebook/twitter n tell everybody how u caught him wit tha yard boy... if yo job dont like yo complain in 15 different rants and let them hoes no... i aint takin yo SHIT NO MO'... Who cares if you get fired cuz you pulled the fire alarm when yo boss suspended you... they shouldnt have wactched the security vid of you freakin a co worker on the bosses desk... how do they have the right to expell you JUS because you said u was slangin n bangin in tha hallways of yo middle skool sister... the gov'ment aint got the right to censor you jus cuz you showed the full plot to assassinate the whole executive branch of the gov'ment... the bus driver cant kick you off the bus jus cause you threw firecrackers under his seat... that teacher cant be mad that his eye got dotted tryin to break up the fight with you and the principle thats his fault (shoulda came stronger)... if they send you to jail tell em that cop shouldnt have pulled up when you was sellin that fiy fiy... nigga shoulda bought some he know he like it basically wha im tryin to tell you is... YOU DUMB FUCK.... you DESERVED IT................ and just because yo homeboy/homegirl/sister/brother/friend put theres on blast.... FUCK what you heard... that isht(radio edit) is stupid... you have failed at NOT failing find a bridge with no water under it and proceed to learn how to fly... this message was brought to you by H.A.H.A (Helping All Happy Actions) in association with I.D.I.O.T. (Ideals Do Indeed Offer Temptations) thank you goodnite - Jrome (aint... aint that... aint that, that nigga) p.s. this was simply sarcasm... if you take it serious... there a spot to learn how to fly reserved for you as well

So You Angry, Huh?

I just had to post this to compliment what Gevar posted. I agree with him. Chill out with the craziness. It really makes no sense to give in fully to your emotions. That's why we have a brain, you know, to reason think and plan. So many people want to shut their minds off just so they can "feel with all their heart." I thought the heart was suppose to be pure? So where does the anger come from? That's neither here or there.

Yes, we make the conscious decision to follow our family, friends, associates, teammates, co-workers and church family on these social networks. We make that decision. Why we do it is based on various reasons that boil down to the fact that we wanted to. That also is besides the point at this moment. Just because you are angry does no mean that you need to out someone's personal life out or voice your extreme hatred for a religion or political opinion. Yes, you have the right to do it, but just because you have the right to something doesn't make it acceptable.

I have to draw lines at certain issues. Exposing your ex husband's crossing dressing habits cause he didn't pick the kids up before your date. Going on a bad date, with someone you didn't even bother giving a chance to. Airing out your roommate's personal business cause of some stupid argument the two of you had. Going off on your mom because she took your car away. Blasting out your boyfriend/girlfriend cause they cheated on you or you think they cheated on you, is terrible. WHATEVER. LESSONS LEARNED. Now you found out that you don't need to waste your time in that relationship. Or maybe there are some issues that the TWO of you need to talk about minus the rest of your extended social circuit knowing about it. i have no idea why everyone wants to have more drama in their lives than they already have.  I know I don't. Plus it's not worth trying to ruin someone's life over.

Just keep it to yourself. Stop trying to blast people out, and if you want to do it... be as general as possible, like we are going to do on this blog. We don't mean or want to personally attack anyone, but we do what to make people aware that they may have to change for the better. Think of our blogs as rubber bullets. Yes, we did shoot you, but we weren't trying to kill you.... maybe this was a bad metaphor but you get the picture.

Ranting post will be brought up a number of times on this blog. You have to be mindful of what you say. The words that come out of your mouth are more power than you realize, and they do give you a certain image. Keep it together and it is ok to keep your mouth closed

VP

Nothing Is Worse Than...

...a grown man (or woman for that matter...but ESPECIALLY a man) who can't control his emotions and deal with them in a constructive manner. We all know someone who may get upset at a situation or a particular person and consistently the FIRST thing they do is take to TwitMyFaceSpace (Twitter, Myspace, Facebook) to publicly display their unstable, vulgar, errant emotional breakdown/rant for the world to see...exposing way more information than necessary to a group of people who could care less to know or read it. Searching for approval, affirmations, or just desperately needing someone (anyone) to "like" their status update for the value of a self-esteem boost. ... :-\

If you feel offended right now, good. And I unapologetically say to you, as VP would put it, "Go sit in the corner and think about your life." ...I'm personally putting you in time out (lol...but I'm so serious)....That's the nicest, most mature way I can put it versus suggesting that you cease existing any further, but that's just not me.

So I'm listening to Mike Posner's new album 31 Minutes To Takeoff because in the past, his mixtapes have caught my attention because they are pretty decent so I decided to give the album a shot. Let's just say I got it for free and I'm still inclined to ask for a refund. A monetary refund and also a refund of the 38 minutes of my life that I lost listening to this mess. But I digress...

Keeping in line with the topic of this post, there's this one terrible (albeit hilarious) track cleverly entitled "Cheated" which is dedicated to his ex who apparently did him dirty. The hook goes a little something like this:

i should've cheated on you ohh ohh i was everything you wanted and more i should've cheated on you ohh ohh nobody told me i was dating a whore i should've cheated, cheated i should've cheated cheated i should've cheated, cheated i should've cheated cheated

Later in the song, Mikey takes it to another (unnecessary) level and proceeds to drop the full name of the chick he's singing about....come on son. It worked for Eminem......you just sound lame and bitter. Listen for yourself...

I guess I can see his reasoning behind deciding to put the song on his debut album. Every artist wants to connect with his/her fans and the way to do that is talk about something they can relate to. The thing he didn't account for is the importance of TACT. First of all, there are two (three) sides to every story. Secondly, why not make a song about how you were hurt and how you got through it....if you really want to connect with and help your fans. I doubt when/if he performs this at a show, there will be a gang of dudes in the front row holding each other and singing/crying/name dropping along with him. MAN UP!

It's perfectly ok to feel these types of feelings. We are humans, not robots, so we will be hurt and disappointed from time to time. But it's NOT ok to purposely publicly display these destructive feelings to those around you. It's toxic.....like sitting in your garage with the car on letting the carbon monoxide fill up the room. What are you accomplishing? Besides showing the world how immature and emotionally unstable you are. Think before you speak....don't let your mouth be a loose cannon. Take time to breathe, write your errant feelings down on paper where only you can read them or call a good friend and vent. Please don't do it publicly because..

"Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn." (c) Rhett Butler, "Gone With The Wind"

- GB

Start The Day Off Right

When I first moved into my place I wrote some encouraging words on my mirror. It's not always easy getting up every morning and going to work. Not always something you look forward to. I was determined to put a smile on my face every single day. If I made myself smile every morning then even if the day went bad then I know that I started it off right. I refuse to say that I "woke up on the wrong side of the bed". The funny thing is, I place my bed against the wall so that I only have one way to get out of it.

You have to eliminate the excuses in your life. Be thankful that you were able to get up and take care of yourself every morning. Be thankful for your job, your children's health, your health, a roof, money in your pocket, food in fridge, soundness of mind, etc.

 You don't necessarily have to write on your mirror, but do something to get you going every morning. Along with writing notes, I would purposely make myself laugh. It was as simple as just talking in funny voices. So  your day by cracking a joke at yourself (not one that leads your mind down a dark path). Read an inspirational quote. Write yourself a letter before you go to bed and read it in the morning. If you have a spouse or a partner, write them a letter or note of daily encouragement. You have to stay positive.

A strong start makes for an easier finish.
Start each day with a smile. It's a new day
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-VP

Favorite Movie Love/Sex Scenes

I wanted to post something interesting that I'm sure everyone has an appreciation for (even if it's just a little). Since I like movies, there are certain parts of movies that just capture my interest and stay with me for some time, whether it be dialogue, an action sequence, or a love scene. So to start off i just wanted to mention some of my favorite love scenes in some of the movies I've seen. Please feel free to comment and share your favorites too. I'm interested to know what you like. 40 Days and 40 Nights

I like this movie for a number of reasons. The sacrifice he made throughout the movie was a bit on the selfish side, but he gained a lot of understanding because of it. This movie actually causes me to think about some pretty interesting things. It's more than just a goofy comedy about sex and sacrifice to me. The love scene with Josh Hartnett and Shannyn Sossamon after he apologizes to her about not being upfront with her is just awesome to me. I can't really think of another word for it right now, maybe I'll come back when I find a better one. It's him, her candles, a bouquet of flowers, and a ton of will power. I can't really take my eyes off the scene. He cause her to have an orgasm by blowing petals across her body!!!!! I've always wanted to do this, just to see if it is even possible... one day.... one day..... Meet Joe Black

This movie is pretty long but it happens to be one of my favorite movies in my collection, I just don't really watch it because it's almost 3 hours long. The movie is really good, I never really gave it a chance until my freshman year in college. The movie was kind of boring me a little, and I have no idea why. I guess because I thought it was just going to be another cheesy romantic drama. The scene that hooked me first was when Brad Pitt's character got hit by the car at the beginning of the movie, I had to have rewinded the DVD about 10 times before I continued to watch the rest of the movie... but I digress. The scene with Claire Forlani and Brad Pitt when they make love for the first time is really passionate and almost poetic to me. I could almost feel the excitement and passion of the two exploring each other's bodies for the first time. I think it has more to do with the fact that it was his character's first time falling in love and having sex. I connected with it at that time in my life. Thomas Crown Affair (1999) Another one of my favorite movies. This is a really cool movie. Check it out. I guess its the combination of the two scenes (you can almost identify a common trend with me, i like passion) Pierce Brosnan and Rene Russo are out dancing and she is wearing this sheer black dress and they are just dancing around the room, only focused on each other and like most things, it leads them back to his penthouse (I assume) and they just seem to have so much fun. Killing Me Softly This movie actually has lots of scenes, and is a bit of a mystery/drama/romance/ thriller. Heather Graham and Joseph Fiennes in the first and last sex scenes. The first one sex scene is pretty interesting how she follows this dude to his house and they just have random, raw passionate sex with each other. I kind of laugh after they are done having sex, she feels this sense of shame even though she likes it, then she goes home to her boyfriend just to be bored by his love making process. The last sex scene (I think, its been a while since I've seen the movie) when he ties her up with some bed sheets is pretty hot. 9 1/2 Weeks Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger go at it throughout the movie but my two favorite scenes are the scene when Mickey says he is hungry and him and Kim head to the kitchen. He has her sit on the floor by the refrigerator and close her eyes as he teases her with various foods. The scene has some funny parts but it's completely sexy. It ends with both of them sticky with honey. My other scene is the ice cube scene. It's a good movie, check it out. Mr. and Mrs. Smith After a pretty intense gun, knife and hand-to-hand fight that tears up their home, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie realize that all they were doing was foreplay and do what many married couples enjoy doing. Pretty cut and dry, still a good scene Out Of Sight George Clooney is the man in this move. This dude is just cool. Jennifer Lopez is sitting at a table across from the bar and is being hit on by 3 dudes sitting at the bar making bets as to which one can pull her or not. She shoots down two before Mr. Clooney approaches the table. After some banter the conversation goes from the bar, to the living room then to the bedroom. This is a really cool scene with scene flashbacks. This is just a really cool scene and movie. -VP

Peaceful serenity...

In every month, week, & day. we all need to take time to relax our mind and alloww our soul to have some peace. Too often we focus on the hassles and struggles of the day and dont take time to reflect on the things we have and look back at from which we've come.

Each day i try to take 30min to an hour to just sit back a focus on something we cannot control yet all you can do is bask in its beauty. I find my peace in the stars at night... i can lay out for hours and just take in the beauty of the night and the thought of their creation, the continuous movement in a space much larger that what we know. I sit amazed by the formations they create and the twinkle in their shine. In the brief time of my day all the stress, anger, and dissappointment wash away into  nothingness. At that time i feel small not because the universe is so large but because everything i feel is felt by millions more, and in some cases worse. It gives me that time to be thankful of the people in my life new and old, the accomplishments i've made, and the growth i've shown. This is a moment i've shared almost nightly since my jr. yr in highschool. Its a way to keep my sanity, as well as my emotions in check. Too many of us allow stress from the previous day to carry over day after day after day, which only makes tomorrows stress that much more worrysome. This is not the only place i find my inner peace though, I also find it in flowing water and the clouds. We take too much time out of each day to complain or build stress but if we could compliment the amount of time we spend doing that with the equal amount of time finding peace within ourselves life would be lived in a much happier state, more peaceful mind, and more relaxed sleep.

So from me to you find your peaceful place and thoughts and try to enjoy them for a little while each day. Allow you mind to wander beyond today, tomorrow, and yesterday, and go to a place where it is for a time stress free and in a state of peaceful serenity.

Love, Live, Life yall
- Jrome (the "angry dude" LOL)

On Some Cool Isht...

I was introduced to this a few months ago, and I was apparently late, but I wanted to share this since I found it so interesting. It's called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. It is a psychometric questionnaire designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions. 


There are four dichotomies that make up the assessment:
1. Attitudes: Extrovert (E)/Introvert (I)
2. Perceiving Functions: Sensing (S)/Intuition (N)
3. Judging Functions: Thinking (T)/Feeling (F)
4. Lifestyle: Judging (J)/Perceiving (P)

Follow the link below and answer the four questions to find your personality type. Then find your type on the left and read the profile. I think you will be amazed at how accurate it is. I know I was.

Type Indicator Assessment

In case you were wondering, I am INFP (Introversion INtuition Feeling Perceiving). Once you find yours, you can check out all the info they have out there for your type both professionally and personally. It gets pretty extensive. I urge you to try it out and let us know your results!

"The mind is like an iceberg; it floats with one-seventh of its bulk above water." - Sigmund Freud

On an unrelated related note, this joint is getting heavy spins:




I was just fine before Swizz "Mr. Keys" Beats got on the mic, but I still rock with it.

Peace.

- GB