Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Happy Valentine's Day 2012

Its been a while hasn't it?

I know this may not be the best time to make a post on the blog, but it's Valentine's Day. The day we set aside to celebrate love. The day that couples frolic around. A day where bitter singles like to fast forward through as if this day carries more sting than the other lonely days. A day were thirsty (desperate) females have been passing out thirst flyers in the past couple of weeks for.

(thirst flyer: open invitations on their social network feeds and blogs advertising that they are single and would like a gift or some shallow comfort for the day because a girl should never spend Valentine's Day alone (single)).
That's a little ridiculous isn't it? I laugh every time I see some girl advertise her singleness and displeasure in spending Valentine's day alone. It's not that big a deal. You spent yesterday single and you'll spend tomorrow single. And why do people associate with single with being alone. I do not feel alone when I'm single, but then again I don't put myself under people to feel better about myself. But these same people will claim they don't need to be under some dude to make themselves feel better..... but yet you are advertising for a date on the 14th. It's not always about being with some one either, some people just want stuff. Just stuff. Candy, gift card, pampering, or attention they have no intention of showing back....

But any way...

Valentine's day has become a very big deal to our culture. It's pretty big to the point where it's a little ridiculous. Some people take this day way too far and some people just do little simple things and keep it moving. For the most part (IN MY OPINION) females take this day way too far and based on my observations the ones that care too much about this day also tend to be the same ones that do the absolute bare minimum.

I hear sayings like "if he doesn't get you anything for Valentine's Day then he doesn't care about you" and stuff along that lines but at the same time I don't really know a lot of times when a dude receives the same effort he puts into giving his girl a Valentine's Gift or experience. Then when you bring that up the argument switches to "well Valentine's Day is for the ladies, not the men" wrong. Valentine's day is suppose to be a day set aside to celebrate romance and love (so I thought). So where in love and romance does it say that only females need to be romanced and loved? That's the problem to me. It's a one sided street. But it doesn't really just begin and stop on Valentine's Day either. It doesn't apply to everyone across the board either.

I'm not bitter about Valentine's day, a least I don't think I am. *insert forced laugh* but seriously. I haven't had a great Valentine's experience that I can remember so this day means nothing to me and it's hard for some people to acknowledge that. Everyone of my Valentine's experiences as an adult have been duds. Not gonna go into details and my co-blogger Gevar is probably laughing right now at one particular experience, or shaking his head, or both actually. But things happen like that. You plan something cool and then the next thing you know you're waking up on the living room floor with an empty champagne bottle in your hand, your head spinning and Shaq is getting interviewed.....

Moving on....

Valentine's day is cool and all but please don't let this day be the day that you actually display your love for one another. Do it everyday. And displaying your love does not include gifts all the time. If that's the only way you display love then you have seriously missed the boat. I know it may be too late this year but dudes, don't go breaking your neck to do something outstanding for a girl who won't do the same for you. Spread the love today. If you are bitter about this day just smile anyway. Give yourself a hug and keep it moving. This day is reserved for love and you don't have to be in a relationship to love some one you care about. You don't even have to wait on this day to say you love them.

Well I hope everyone has a happy Valentine's Day. I'm gonna sit back and read my Twitter and Facebook feed on the complaints for this day and the read what the bitter people have to say. It's always entertaining.

Monday, October 24, 2011

Alternate Realities

I was at work chatting with my coworker when she made the statement that “everyone has their own reality.” I didn’t argue with her at first mainly because it made me curious. So before I kept thinking about it I decided to run the question by Gevar. As G was giving his answer my brain kicked in and started running with the idea of everyone having their own reality. To some point I can jump on the band wagon that everyone has their own reality but I eventually have to jump off. Yes, it is true that we have our own unique perspectives and certain things work out for some people that don’t necessarily work out for others, but that doesn’t mean that everyone has their own reality, at least not in the grand scheme of it all. If the concept of reality varies from individual to individual then reality itself doesn’t really exist, right? If it did then we all would have to agree on the same reality, which we don’t, so in my opinion if everyone has their own reality then reality doesn’t exist.

Gevar’s argument was that everyone has their own reality about what they go through personally and how they interpret it. He felt that we interpret things based on our life experiences (which I agree on)… being that his experiences and mine are not going to be identical, so in theory our realities are different. He also went on to say that everyone is at different points and moments in their lives… also reinforcing the argument that we do have different realities. I countered by saying that there has to be a SET reality. There has to be a true reality in which we all exist and agree on. Sure, the direction in life that you may take is different from mine but does that effect reality? Do we confuse reality with perspective or is our individual perspectives reality? I don’t have a definite answer to that. I slightly agree that we have our own reality, but whether we see eye to eye or not, it is not like we can individually mold the “reality” around us into something else entirely. Then say we did have our own reality. What if how we perceived everything was our own unique reality? Why would I choose to constantly live in failure? I have the control to change it, it’s my perception, and therefore I can change it if I find enough evidence to do so. I can make myself believe in whatever I want. I can shape my life into whatever I want. I can choose to conform to someone else’s beliefs or ideals or I can choose my own. Life is basically made from the choices we make. You are the choices you make in life and those choices mold who you into the person you are and how you are perceived. I don’t really understand some of the crazy things some people choose to make sense to them, then again a lot of people don’t see how I come to the conclusions that I come to. We will not particularly see things exactly the same and something’s have to be approached differently for some people to grasp the concept or form the same conclusion another has. Does that really mean that reality really is ours to make up? Does reality change from individual to individual? Just because you believe something to be true or make sense, does that really make it true? Truth means something exists without a doubt or is independent of too much thought.

Well that’s my take; I wonder what other people think of this question.

[Definition] Reality is defined as:

1. the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them
     a. a thing that is actually experienced or seen, esp. when this is grim or problematic
     b. a thing that exists in fact, having previously only existed in one’s mind
     c. the quality of being lifelike or resembling an original

2. the state or quality of having existence or substance
     a. (Philosophy) existence that is absolute, self-sufficient, or objective, and not subject to human decisions or conventions

3. Phrases
      a. In reality- in actual fact 9used to contrast a false idea of what is true or possible with one that is more accurate)
      b. The reality is- used to assert that the thrust of a matter is not what one would think or expect

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

3 Random Rants


I was sitting at home trying to write down some of the albums I wanted to download and add to my computer. I found myself frustrated by how slow I was writing cause by the time I wrote one thing down, I’d forget what I wanted to download next (my brain likes to run faster than my fingers can keep up at times). So, I kind of asked myself why I don’t write in cursive any more. It was one of the most random thoughts but it had a point. Why don’t I write in cursive anymore? One of the reasons is that when I really get in a hurry I can’t read whatever the hell I wrote. This is really sad. Then I always have my smart phone with me so there is no reason to carry a pen anymore (I do anyway because it’s just something I find myself doing). Also because I haven’t written in cursive in a long time, I had to think about how to compose some of the letters. While I was practicing how to write (really sad again), I thought about why we ever had to learn to write in cursive to begin with. I honestly don’t see the purpose of ever learning to write in cursive other than to learn how to write your signature. I guess for the most part it was suppose to be some means to write faster… considering the even flow used to construct letters. I remember one of my teachers marking off my paper because she couldn’t read one of the words I had written…. I mean seriously, who can read everyone’s cursive anyway? So many people’s handwritings are unique and illegible anyway, I don’t see how you can mark off on someone’s paper because you found it difficult to read their cursive, especially if you required that they write it in cursive (not to mention as the student you could barely read your teachers cursive comments on your paper… double fail). I was told that they are removing cursive from the syllabi of many classes. It is basically a dead skill, especially with the existence of smart phones, tablets, and computers. With so many people demanding “talk to text” we’ll probably stop teaching kids how to write…. At least we all read more.

Hand Sanitizer

Hand sanitizer is awesome. It has some great uses: it kills 99.99% of germs, which helps your children limit the amount of germs they spread around, and it can get permanent ink off of your office desk (that’s what I like to use it for). However, the thing that makes me wonder about it is, how much of a purpose does it really have if it doesn’t remove the dirt and grim from your hand? Like if you had dirt and oil on your hand does the hand sanitizer just sanitize the oil and dirt? Cause it surely doesn’t remove it. And once the dirt and oil is sterilized, does that make you “clean”? Cause you are technically walking around covered in sanitized dirt and oil. Then again I would hope that you don’t try to bath or wash yourself in hand sanitizer.

Don’t Judge Women by the Clothes They Wear

…. And why not??? I honestly feel like if you dress a certain way then you should be expected to be perceived and treated a certain way. If a dude is seen wearing a jersey, dirt jeans and some Crocs, then most people will not take him that seriously, so what makes a female any different? Time and time again we tell people not to judge a book by its cover (basically, don’t judge people by how they look on the outside but the quality of what lies within them), but then again we also say that image is everything. Image is a lot though, it basically sums you up to a certain extent or another, but it isn’t everything. How you look is important because it isn’t just about how you feel but it’s also about how people who do not know you will view you. It actually is an important concept to come to terms with. That being said I believe it is pretty justifiable to not really take someone seriously if they are dressed inappropriately. That does not mean be disrespectful or anything of that sort. I’m saying that I’m not going to take you seriously if you are wearing summer clothes in the winter time, so why would I take you seriously if you are walking around half naked all the time? What am I suppose to think about a female who invites me to her place and she then changes into some booty shorts? How am I suppose to respond to that, I clearly see your booty, and you clearly were fully aware of what you put on so… what sort of image am I left with to have of you? How am I supposed to think that you are a mature respectable woman when you are walking around with your ass out? I know you feel the breeze on your booty. You don’t see females or men who take themselves seriously enough showing too much skin or much skin at all. I’m not saying that you have to wear a business suit for me to take you seriously (I’ve seen women fail at wearing appropriate business attire. Showing too much cleavage is a fail). There are plenty of ways to dress appropriately and be comfortable, there are also plenty of ways to dress for fun and be sleek and sexy without the risk of a nip slip increasing to 90%. I don’t care how much of a gentleman a dude is, I promise you that he will try to take a peek at a nipple. I’m not going to beak my neck to see some titties but, hey, my day will become a little brighter just by seeing one… and two… AWWW MAN!!!! I’m slightly joking, but seriously, what you wear and how you wear it says things about you whether you realize (or accept) it or not. That’s why I wear a tie to work, and why when I go out I try to wear something appropriate enough and comfortable enough for me to enjoy wearing. I’m not going to dress in a shirt and tie just to go to the store for a Saturday run, then again I’m not going to run in the store wearing running shorts or tights. Some things just really aren’t appropriate to wear. I love to look nice when I feel nice, but I’ve never had the desire to dress or feel slutty. Nudity and (too much) skin should be reserved for the comfort of you being home by yourself, not in other people’s faces… there is a reason why mostly porn stars wear fishnet.