Are you done yet?!

Another night of doing the same old boring thing. You know by look in his eye what is about to go down. So you already know play by play what the night (in some cases few minutes lol) entails. Play one: He grabs your butt. CHECK Play two: He kisses your ear. CHECK Play three: He tell you he is going to beat it down (you already know his three pumps aren't worth your time) CHECK Four plays later, you are left bored, moaning out of habit and thinking to yourself "DAMN! Are you done yet?!?"

How do so many of us men and women get to this point? I think there is no specific one answer but I will give you some insight on how to prevent it and how to bring that spark back into your relationship. Don't bring sex into the relationship too early! I know it sounds old fashioned and cliche but it is so true in many cases. I know sometimes the passion can be so deep that you can't even wait past the first night. lol But this can really kill a long term relationship. You pull out all your best trick from your freak'um bag ranging from doing the Passion Propeller1, the Lusty Leg Lift2 and even the Dirty Sanchez3(OH MY!) in the first month of dating. By the time month 6 rolls around, your sexual repertoire is mundane to say the least. If she is worth it, she is worth the wait. Don't hype your partner up into thinking you are some type sexual Mandingo Warrior! Hyping yourself up too much can BACKFIRE quickly! Don't tell her that you can work it so good that you will make her weave fall off when in actuality you don't even know where to put it or your bust as soon as you see some bare tid-days(titties). First impressions are lasting impressions! So, make sure that you can cash any check that you write when it comes to your "abilities". Don't think all partners are the same and like the same things. I think this is a very important lesson that should be learned. Just as in life, it is easy to do things out of habit and comfortableness. There is a high probability if we go into the bedroom with these same tactics one person will be left unsatisfied and disappointed. Just because Ashley liked it from the back and to pull her hair does not mean Jessica likes it the same way. Hell, she might jack you up for even TOUCHING her hair (mainly applied to black women lol) This leads me to my next point. Take the time to learn what your partner likes and dislikes. As I said before, every woman is different. The sooner you realize this the sooner you will be one step closer to understanding the femal psyche4. I know that the most male brains are focused on one main goal BUT take the time to explore her body. It is easy to determine if a woman like what you are doing to her. If you are kissing down her back and she tenses up or you are not getting any verbal ques, OBVIOUSLY she does not like that. You will really know a woman is satisfied if she pulls you in closer or she returns the favor in the same mannor with out you asking. ;^) Learn how to give oral sex the right way. I dont know where else to bring up the topic. So I guess I'll slide it in (no pun intended lol) here. If this is a part of your relationship, learn the proper way to do it! I know i said that every one like differnt things BUT there are some things that you should NEVER do. If you are giving this to a man ladies, do NOT and i repeat DO NOT use your teeth! That ish hurts them! There is no tootsie roll or bubble gum in the center. So, there is no need to knaw on it. Also ladies, I know some of you have a weird fantasy of putting your finger or dildo in a mans butt. If he allows you to do this, he is NOT a straight man. This is offensive and disrespectly to expect your man to allow you to do this. Now on to you men, teeth on the clit=no, no, no! Think of the clit as the tip of your penis. It is very sensitive. Be delicate and gradually work up to more intsense strokes. I read somewhere that if you are unsure on how to perfor oral sex on a lady, spell out the alphabet with your tounge while doing it. I will take that a step further and say cursive letters ;) Understand that is is not always about you. This may not be the case most of the time because females are usually selfish in the bedroom from what I hear from my friends. But, you must be willing to satisfy her sexual needs before you are "finished". Many times, to set the mood, you can tease her in order to get her worked up enough that she is willing to do just about anything to your body. Kiss her in her most desired spots, rub her in the right places, and in between the two just put the tip in. I promise you, she will be begging you for more! She may even flip you over and take it from you! ;) It does not always have to be a marathon! Espcially at two in the morning when we have to work the next day. You may be suprised to hear this but we like quickies too! Just as men don't like slow passionate sex ALL the time, women don't like marathon sex all the time either. Some men LOVE to brag about how long they are last but that is not alway appealing to us. Women aren't faucets. The juices will stop flowing at some point. No woman likes a raw, swollen, and beat up vag in the morning. You may find this shocking but we don't want to be walking funny the next day either! No one wants to get those stares of "what does she have baking down there" No cute fellas, not cute. Be willing to try new things. I think this is the MOST important piece of advice that i can give! You can have all the right moves and say all the right things. But, if you have been doing and saying these things to same person since '98 it is tired and old by now. Maybe you have always done it in the bed room. Maybe try it on the kitchen counter (make sure you wipe it down afterwards though. no one wants ass juice on their food the next meal), or go to a movie in the middle of the day that you know there is a high chance no one will be in (like No Strings Attached. you know there won't be ANYBODY watch that garbage) and do a little foreplay action and finish up the activities at home. Maybe even watch a porno (tons a free sites out there. Nobody buys them for $39.99 anymore) together and act out what's on the screen. My point is, just be willing to do things differently sometime. Be willing to explore. Sex needs to grow as long as the relationship grows. You have to switch it up and spice it up every so often so that you are in one of those "Damn! Are you done yet?!" situations.

Signed,

JustCallMeKei

Notes 1 Passion Propeller: Your man lies on top of you, entering you in traditional missionary style, but then — yowza! — he starts doing a 360-degree spin, all the while keeping his penis deep inside of you. As he's rotating and thrusting, help guide him around your body like a propeller would spin around the top of a helicopter. Make sure to lift his legs when they swing around over your head. 2 Lusty Leg Lift: Face your partner, standing with your legs shoulder width apart. Take your left foot and turn it out to the side while keeping your right one facing forward. Have him widen his stance, with his legs about three feet apart, and then ask him to bend his knees ever-so-slightly. Wrap your arms around his neck and have him put his arms snugly around your lower back. Here’s where it gets a little tricky: Pull your right leg up and place your right foot on his left shoulder, keeping your right knee bent. As he slowly enters you, ease into the vertical split by sliding your calf as far up his left shoulder as you comfortably can. 3 Dirty Sanchez: When you have anal sex and then wipe the crap on your partner's upper lip giving them a Hitler.

4 You will NEVER EVER dissect the female thought process entirely! Hell, we don't even know what we want most of the time.

No Sex: My Reevaluation of Relationships Part 2

Let's continue from where I left off in Part 1
http://ghidorah3.blogspot.com/2011/02/no-sex-my-reevaluation-of-relationships.html

Lust should never be mistaken for love, but it is everyday. We choose our wants over our needs. Love doesn’t leave anyone hurt, angry and confused when it’s all said and done. I don’t want to be in a relationship where my ex can’t talk to me. To have my ex avoiding me at every turn. How sad is that to be the person always trying to hide and avoid the other person because you feel hurt, and you can’t let it go? As a couple you spend a couple of months or a couple of years telling and showing people how much in love you are. You meet each other’s families, tell each other your most intimate secrets only to never talk again…. And that feeling mostly comes from confusion. We confuse lust and love only to feel emotionally betrayed by the other person, but most of the time we set ourselves up. At the end of the day, it’s on us. We made the poor decision that left us the way we are. I don’t want that. I don’t want to have regret over my past relationships (yes that is regret when you are putting effort into avoiding your ex, don’t fool yourself). I want to build and create relationships out of love and understanding; those relationships grow into life long friendships and partnerships, even if the romantic relationship comes to an end. I don’t like the fact that someone I confided in is no longer a friend, just because we ended a romantic relationship. It apparently wasn’t meant to be a sexually romantic relationship. Some times we grow apart but we turn that growth into regression with our ill will. I also don’t’ want to feel like my relationship with my wife is a burden. Who keeps friends around that are constant burdens? No one, so why should your spouse/girlfriend be any different, they live with you and share every aspect of your life… let's make sense people. I want me and my wife to be on the same page and 7 hours a week is not going to get us there. So I made the decision to focus my attention on what really matters. My initial reason to refrain from sex was because I was tired. I wanted to eliminate the confusion that comes with sex. I was/am tired of the rat race to chase skirts. I have no desire to “hook up” it serves me no purpose toward my overall dream and goal to having a loving family.

Hooking up doesn’t seem respectful to me either. I’m using you to give me what I want and it just makes me feel bad at the end of the day. Then, what’s the point if I never want to call you other than to have sex? What’s the point if I never want to introduce you to my friends and family? Why have “friends” that you purposely keep in the shadows? I know there are exceptions; at least people think there are. There are people who make platonic relationships work, but why always fight against the rule just so you can justify the exception? Friends with benefits don’t last. I don’t care how much communication you two have it just isn’t meant to be something long term, so justifying it is pointless. The whole point of forming the verbal contract is to avoid putting effort into going out and engaging in meaningless hook-ups. So now you have found a “way out” with someone who shares the same idea, but someone is eventually going to catch feelings and get hurt because the other person doesn’t share those same feelings. It’s all cool when you are using each other, you both are getting what you both want without the fear of being in a real relationship, where you have to care about the other person…. But like I said in Wants vs. Needs, you are ALWAYS going to want more. In that situation you wanting more is justifiable, why wouldn’t it be? Nobody wants to stay the same. Every day we are striving to be better than we are today, so why be in a “relationship” (or I guess a contract) that goes nowhere? Eventually someone is going to want it to go further or move on to something better. The confusion and hurt occurs when the two aren’t on the same page….. Come to think of it… one person wants to further the relationship and the other wants to move on…. That's very similar most relationship break-ups. I’m just saying.

 Liquid Spirits ft. Phonte - If You Don't Love Me by EVO85 

I have constantly asked this question throughout the years, why do friendships last longer than romantic relationships? They are both relationships right, both include love, understanding, trust, etc. I use to think sex was the difference, but we make sex the difference. We claim that we can’t have sex with our opposite sex friends because it will ruin the relationship… hold up… why do we say this? So you mean to tell me that WE KNOW that sex ruins relationships? So WHY do we turn around and have sex with a “stranger” and claim that we are in love??? Sense made to me… none. We are some very confusing creatures and all of it is because we operate off our wants. We are too small minded. Even when it comes to getting in a relationship, we only care about what WE want over someone that actually cares and respects us. That’s some funny stuff. We know what makes a relationship fall apart and work, yet we fail to get past our own selfishness. I don’t want to question myself so much when it comes to relationships. I’m tired of questioning my relationships; I want to know that it feels right and not try to convince myself that it feels right. I want to develop a friendship that isn’t tainted by the effects of sex or confusion. I’m not trying to base my decisions off lustful desires or sexual satisfaction/dissatisfaction. I feel like if I love you and the sex is bad, then I (or you) can learn to be better. That’s the point of being in love, understanding and growing together, making each other better. You have to WANT to be and do better though, and when it comes to a relationship you have to look beyond yourself to do so. Not saying that you have to deny yourself pleasure or satisfaction, just don’t put that completely over the other person.

I think people spend too much time putting emphasis on pleasure and sex. Everything that feels or looks good isn’t always good for you. Instant gratification never got any one anywhere worth truly being either. So I decided to do something about it. It hasn’t been that easy either, deprogramming yourself isn’t easy or fun, but I believe that it will take me to the places I want to be. It really is an interesting thing to look beyond what I want. It’s nice being able to see more than I was able to see before.

No Sex: My Reevaluation of Relationships Part 1

In 2009, I decided to make certain “sacrifices” in my life. Toward the end of the year I decided to “give up sex”. By the time the New Year came around I decided to abstain from sex in 2010. To make things perfectly clear, I am not a sex addict of some sort. Sex has never been anything that I’ve struggled with. It was just something I decided to do. I initially made the decision to do it because I was tired, but as the days, weeks and months went by I gained new purpose and understanding to what I decided to do.

I’ve endured my fair share of jokes about not getting any, but I don’t care. People are always going to have jokes, but I want more from my life and my relationships. SO here I am explaining it. Thought I’d share some of my revelations (some of which I’ve already known, but am trying to apply). SO please keep in mind that what I’m writing is all my opinion, this is what I feel at the current moment and is due to change, provided more evidence changes my viewpoints.

To me sex has been overly hyped and just like everything else, when taken out of context can be inappropriate and lead to confusion. (If you haven’t read Gevar’s post please read it  http://ghidorah3.blogspot.com/2011/02/sex-smorgasbord.html). Sex is everywhere; it’s basically a constant thought in our minds. From church to the clubs, and I’m a little tired of it. Every time I go out I seem to see the same thing. Females showing more skin or curves (and rolls and bumps) for attention, YET they don’t want to be bothered. Jrome (one of the creators) brought up a good point a while back, females dress for each other when they go out, they don’t dress for the attention of guys, they dress to compete with each other… but that’s another topic that he can talk about. My point is men are not the only ones that use sex for their own gains or think about it all the time. I just got tired of it, so I started to evaluate my thought process and relationships. In order to move forward with some things you have to glance back. So I had to look back on my past relationships, experiences and even on other people’s situations. To me sex was/is an act of love. It’s the closest you can physically get to someone. Sex is a fusion that should be reserved for two people who love, care and respect each other. Basically, sex should be reserved for married people ( in the grand scheme of things, but of course the institution of marriage has been taking some heavy hits for the people that don’t respect it, care for it or understand it). Let me rephrase that (we live in messed up times), Sex should be reserved for two people who are under a marriage contract and it should be performed with the two people under the said contract with each other.

The reason sex complicates things is because in certain situations it is inappropriate. It gives an illusion of feeling when there really wasn’t any to begin with, not the feeling that you were hoping for at least. Women claim that men know how to “detach” themselves from sex; the truth is we never had feelings in the first place. There was no attachment to begin with. You can’t honestly tell me that you “love” a dude after the short period of time it took for him to meet you, get your number, “play the game” and then you two have sex…. If women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex, then we are all misguided. However, according to this statement men have the better idea than women do because love comes before sex. So, according to the statement, this is the reason why women have so many relationship failures, you are giving the want before the need…This can all lead back to my post  http://ghidorah3.blogspot.com/2011/01/needs-vs-wants.html, we need companionship (love) but we want sex, then we confuse the two. Every sex act has a degree of emotion and affection associated with it. Is sex love? No it’s not. Sex is an act of love. Giving and receiving at a more filthy yet compassionate level. Love can exist without sex and therefore sex can exist without love. What many people (stereotypically women) fail to realize is that sex is an action, and every action has a motive. The motive may or may not include your best interest. Someone having sex with you doesn’t mean that they love you; they may just enjoy sex without caring anything about you.

I’ve seen too many relationships fail because sex was incorporated too early or given more importance than the relationship itself. It makes no sense why sex is so important in a relationship. Why should sex be a means to begin, stay in or end a relationship? Let’s look at this from a logical viewpoint. I’ll give sex an hour out of the day. There are 7 days in a week. So, there are 168 hours in a week and if you have sex every single day, that’s 7 hours a week devoted to sex. You still have 161 hours left to put up with each other (now for the technically picky people, I know that your week is full of activities that take up the remainder of the 161 hours, but let’s just say none of us have jobs or anything else to do). If you find that the only things you enjoy in your relationship are those 7 hours, then something is wrong with you. You are telling me that 7 hours or pleasure are enough to put up with 161 hours of confusion, drama and misery? Give me 161 hours of happiness, understanding and love any time. Those 161 hours are way more important to me than 7 hours of deceit. I don’t ever want to lose sight of real love again. I don’t want to fool myself into making something work when I know that it was never meant to be what it is.

Check out part 2
http://ghidorah3.blogspot.com/2011/02/no-sex-my-reevaluation-of-relationships_02.html

Randomized Sex

So, late Sunday night I'm flying into Charlotte, North Carolina from New York City. I have a two hour layover, so I decide to call up an old college/work friend of mine who now resides in North Carolina. Big mistake!!!

While waiting at baggage claim, I'm thinking, 'this is a big mistake. I look terrible, I have no make up on, I didn't flat iron my hair,' etc, etc, blah, blah, blah. Well, while I'm having second thoughts it's too late because here he comes pulling into the pick up lane.

We proceed to greet each other with the friendly 'I haven't seen you in ages hug' and we take off for Hooters (it was the only thing open, trust me, it wasn't my first choice). Everything was all fun and games until we leave the restaurant and back into his car. As soon as we get in the car, he's rubbing on my thighs as if he's ready to go back to his house for dessert. Being the polite woman that I am, I strategically move his hand from my thigh and resume my 'fake texting' (I had  to do this to make it seem like I was occupied so I wouldn't be forced to slap him for violating me in that way).

As if my moving of his hand wasn't enough, he begins asking me what kind of panties I'm wearing and telling me how 'thick my ass has gotten,' and how I should re-schedule my flight so we could 'talk' more, you know, the words most simple girls would be turned on by. At this point I'm disgusted and ready to walk back to the airport rather than spend another minute in the car with him.

So I finally arrive to the airport with my dignity and panties in tact and call my best friend to give a play by play of the lusty layover.

More than anything, I'm thinking 'how could he?' We're supposed to be friends and he just wanted to have a sexual rendezvous in the back of his car in the airport parking lot.

This brings me to my topic of sex: randomized sex. Have we gotten so careless or needy for sex that we don't care the time, person, place, or circumstance? I believe that the more sex becomes readily available (i.e. pornography, sex shops, hook ups, one night stands, friends with benefits, etc.) the more our morals and values go out the window. Just look at how Hollywood glorifies randomized sex with the new movie 'No Strings Attached.' They're adding to the myth that friends with benefits can work out. Like Gevar mentioned in his previous post, 'women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.' Wires get crossed and hearts get trampled on.

I may be old fashioned, but when I stepped out of my 'friend's' car Sunday night, I left with a clear conscious and my status with him the same as when I came. I'm not looking for randomized sex, there's more to it than just the act itself.

Sex Smorgasbord

I tried to just focus on one aspect of the topic at hand, but sex is way too complex to marginalize so let's explore, shall we? *rubs hands together*

Defined

I would like to say that sex is only a way for two people who really care for each other to physically connect and express their love to one another....but that is simply not the case and hasn't been for a very long time. Among other things, sex today is a tool for validation, revenge, strictly pleasure with no emotional attachment, a barter system (monetary or otherwise), a hobby, profession, etc., etc. Not to pass judgement on any of these because I've definitely used a few of these myself, but it's safe to say that sex (like anything else) is not being used solely for its intended purpose on a large scale. We all have different views on what is right or wrong about it but we can all agree that it has been categorically humanized. On a smaller scale it can be the most beautiful fulfilling thing on the planet and also the biggest detriment we've ever experienced, based on how both parties perceive the act. Which leads me to a HUGE misconception that I have both witnessed and been involved in....

"Women give sex to get love. Men give love to get sex." 

I read somewhere that someone said something to the effect of...If men didn't think with their penises (peni?...lol), most women would still be virgins....i couldn't disagree with anything more. Being that every woman (barring rape) makes a conscious decision every time she opens her legs, the consequences are a result of that decision...good or bad. Whether she was led on or not is irrelevant. I've noticed that a lot of women prefer to use scapegoats to avoid admitting that they just made a terrible decision. It may seem easier and may feel better to put the blame on the other party but it actually makes you look that much weaker. It implies that you are incapable of making decisions for yourself...and if that is truly the case, you deserve to be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

 Cee-Lo Green - Bodies (Produced By Salaam Remi) by EVO85

(marinate on that)

In addition, I can't be convinced that in 2011 women aren't openly and equally (if not more) sexually suggestive, aggressive, and down right horny as men. Open your eyes, it's not 1955 anymore. The modern woman is just that...modern. Accept your duality as a human being...embrace it and all the decisions that come with it. Right or wrong. And be careful who you *decide* to open your legs to.

There are those times when you make a good decision and it hits on all cylinders. In my experience, sex is SO much better when you have built an actual connection and a relationship (on whatever level) with the other person. You actually care about pleasing them and take time to learn every curve, every spot, every quirk. And when it's over, you're not overcome with instant regret while counting the seconds before they get dressed and leave. Versus...

"In the bathroom doing that ' What am I doing?' crap...hoping I can leave by 4:15/ Knowing all she really wants is a '2/14' but in the meantime settles for me, 'Mr. Sheets'..." 

We've all been down that road which more often than not ends on unfavorable terms. That or it just ends and while it was adequate enough while it lasted, we're left with that empty void that we came in with that the sex alone inevitably could not fill. Being on the same page with your partner adds that emotional fulfillment to the physical act along with all the extras. You can communicate what you want more effectively, do all the crazy things you always wanted to but couldn't, try new things, and explore boundaries. It also helps being very candid about your sexual history...in my opinion. My lady and I frequently discuss our past "encounters" and it never gets weird or feels like I'm talking to my girl....feels like two friends just chatting. I've noticed that it breaks down the walls of mystery and places our connection on a higher level without anyone getting jealous or speculating. Some would rather deal with the present and not display their past, but I believe my past is what shaped who I am today and my partner should know that. It's my story, so I must share it.

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How Do You Want It?

How Does It Feel?

Many many females feel they just KNOW what a man wants and needs when in all honesty its probably a whole lot simpler than you may think. For certain "HOLIDAYS" some feel as if they have to do something extra sexy/special when actually the fact that you've shown up has done it all... (i know krazy right lol) Yet don't get me wrong if you like going all out for your man believe me he enjoys it just maybe not how you want him to. There starts the problem and the lack of a problem all in one so now... lets break in ALLL the way DOOOOOOWN....

So you went to Vicky Se. to get that nighty that will show off your curves to an extent he may have never seen before. You cut off all the lights, light some candles, put on some nice slow sensual music. May spread sum rose petals on the floor from the entrance to the bedroom where you have the satin(silk if u got the money) sheets ready for action. He comes home, walks in the door and calls your name, asks where you are as he follows the petals, gets to the door and sees you on the bed, drops his bag n takes off his tie. As he approaches the bed starts unbuttoning his shirt then he asks... "what's all this for?(record scratches)". You tell him, "it's because i love you." and he proceeds to tear and rip away at everything you have on as he does his own. Leaving your brand new nighty bedside without a mention of it at all... there starts the problem! Cause THAT nigga and give you NO credit for ALL that damn work you spent ALL that time doing.

The only thing i have to say to that is... you did it to yourself babe. While you have some men that do appreciate that from the spouse/wifey/gf/boo whatever, it does occassionally go unnoticed because the lead up to it is great but the experience is what MOST men are in it for. Now if you're lucky you have a man that is willing to give you great 4play for as long as you need to get... READY! lol (If you dont have this kind of man subtle hints or a simple "(domination)role playing" will help) Men always notice your curves with or without clothes and very few men dont know their womans every curve(unless they just caveman that azz every night). Sexy clothes are always nice but not needed, you can probably get the same rise out of him just by being at home on the bed naked waiting for him. You could even try waiting for him at the front door (if you know what time he gets home) because after a long day a nice "session" is always enjoyable in an empty house.

If you listen to music like i do, alot of R&B songs can give you ideas of when and where you can surprise your man.

• R. Kelly - Sex in the Kitchen **
• Tony Terry - In the Shower **
• Silk - Meeting in My Bedroom
• Boyz II Men - I'll Make Love to You
• Donell Jones - Can't Wait
• Dru Hill - Real Freak
• Dwele - Lay It Down
• Eric Benet - Chocolate Legs***
• Ginuwine - Sex
• H-Town - Knockin Da Boots*
• Jamie Foxx - Freak'in Me
• Jodeci - Freakin You
• Jon B. - Can We Get Down
• LSG - My Body
• R. Kelly - Bump N Grind

Ok i'll stop there for now... but you get my point, they may not give exact details but from each of those songs its not just sex or just love but the act. The act is what most men focus on, now it's not right TRUE. Yet when tempted with the female body most men's thought process shuts down to some extent (now im giving away secrets so please take note!!!). If you want your man to do ANYTHING ask him while naked... I bet he will say yes to damn near ANYTHING not because he didnt hear you but its like a kid when you have candy, "It's A Wrap!" Now me personally i appreciate the nighty, and the candles, and oils, and petals. Yet some heels and a little whipped cream will have the same effect.

If you really REALLY want to get your man in the mood and change it up without spending a while lot or thinking you've done too much. Act like you are cleaning the house with little to nothing on, put on your tallest boots, black panties, and bra and make him call you by an alias. Do something to tease him while he is on the phone, computer, or working from home. If you want a special night do something out of the norm. Every valentine's people expect roses and chocolate candles and a nighty. Throw him a hook, pull out a whip (will not work on all but then again you never know), put on a costume, role play. If you like the flower petals and candles let him do that for you and let him know that he should. Honestly men are so much simpler than you think, but if you want to go sexy, something spicy, something pleasureable? Try something besides the "love scenes" you see on your favorite dram show. Go with something that makes the imagination run and temp in the room rise. For most guys the best time to do something out of the norm is.... (wait for it)...... ANYTIME!!! the less expected time is the best time. Best places to cattch a man... EVERYWHERE!!! If he hops in the shower(bathtub)... hop in with him and give him reason to feel like i have to bathe again lol. If he is in the garage working on something give him reason to take a break. Stressed out about work give him reason to be stress free, watching the game? Show him how to use that 15min halftime LMAO.

Dont ever allow yourself to OVERTHINK what men want, our wants are easy good love, good food, good music, good sports(entertainment), good view, and a good drama free atmosphere. So instead of wondering so much as to what you should do for your man and wondering what he WANTS i just told you... now his individual needs.... needs..... NEEDS!!!, thats different find that out on your own Ms. Don't think you have to do something sexy for your man because you are sexy in his eyes you just have to find a way to make him see the freak in you that we all know is there.......... yes i said "we all KNOW is there", because everyone can be freaky, but there are only a few Freaks lol

Now that we have that out of the way tell him "How you want it, and how it feels" lol

SEX WEEK

First off, we hope everyone is starting off 2011 the right way. Since its February those New years Resolutions are being tested, stay strong.

We want to thank all the readers who have been with us from the beginning and even the new comers who are reading our post, we really appreciate the interest and the support. With that being said, this week our main topic is sex. I brought up the idea that we make this a week long subject mainly because I didn't want to leave my post hanging without some counter arguments. The other reason is because, its sex. We all talk about it, we all think about it (or not try to think about it) whether we are having sex or not. It's just something that is always popping up in some shape, form or fashion. It has become who we are. It has and is being used to define us sometimes. It's important and it isn't so important. It's complicated and simple all at the same time.
Everyone has an opinion on the subject, so this week we took the opportunity to allow other writers to be heard on the subject of sex. There really is no formate, its just some of our writers posting about what they want about sex, attraction, love, interest, etc.

We hope you guys enjoy the week. Feel free to join in on any conversations we start.

VP