While waiting at baggage claim, I'm thinking, 'this is a big mistake. I look terrible, I have no make up on, I didn't flat iron my hair,' etc, etc, blah, blah, blah. Well, while I'm having second thoughts it's too late because here he comes pulling into the pick up lane.
We proceed to greet each other with the friendly 'I haven't seen you in ages hug' and we take off for Hooters (it was the only thing open, trust me, it wasn't my first choice). Everything was all fun and games until we leave the restaurant and back into his car. As soon as we get in the car, he's rubbing on my thighs as if he's ready to go back to his house for dessert. Being the polite woman that I am, I strategically move his hand from my thigh and resume my 'fake texting' (I had to do this to make it seem like I was occupied so I wouldn't be forced to slap him for violating me in that way).
As if my moving of his hand wasn't enough, he begins asking me what kind of panties I'm wearing and telling me how 'thick my ass has gotten,' and how I should re-schedule my flight so we could 'talk' more, you know, the words most simple girls would be turned on by. At this point I'm disgusted and ready to walk back to the airport rather than spend another minute in the car with him.
So I finally arrive to the airport with my dignity and panties in tact and call my best friend to give a play by play of the lusty layover.
More than anything, I'm thinking 'how could he?' We're supposed to be friends and he just wanted to have a sexual rendezvous in the back of his car in the airport parking lot.
This brings me to my topic of sex: randomized sex. Have we gotten so careless or needy for sex that we don't care the time, person, place, or circumstance? I believe that the more sex becomes readily available (i.e. pornography, sex shops, hook ups, one night stands, friends with benefits, etc.) the more our morals and values go out the window. Just look at how Hollywood glorifies randomized sex with the new movie 'No Strings Attached.' They're adding to the myth that friends with benefits can work out. Like Gevar mentioned in his previous post, 'women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.' Wires get crossed and hearts get trampled on.
I may be old fashioned, but when I stepped out of my 'friend's' car Sunday night, I left with a clear conscious and my status with him the same as when I came. I'm not looking for randomized sex, there's more to it than just the act itself.
while i do understand and somewhat agree i also have to disagree with the... "adding to the myth that friends with benefits can work" because while im no longer involved in said type of relationship i have been and it did work and probably could have continued to work had i not moved for a job... we can't predict what situation will and wont work unless we actually attempt them... i've had more successful "friends with benefits" than successful "relationships" not like thats something to brag about, yet to say they cant work is a matter of opinion... random sex is overly available but even a friends with benefits is a relationship not the common "we are together" aspect... in the end its all about maturity... are they mature enough to respect the boundaries of the situation/relationship and are they mature enough to handle it?
ReplyDeleteummmm... wow. I don't know what to say here...
ReplyDeleteThat's kind of a bold move to just "come out of nowhere" i'm a thinker so I'm just saying.
Sex is readily available because we allow it to be readily available, we expect it to be readily available... basically, we have all brought this on ourselves. If it wasn't readily available when we wanted it, then we would be complaining. We can't be satisfied for one reason or another. Wires get crossed for one reason and one reason alone, lack of communication, or failure to communicate. I hate how we expect things to happen and we don't verbalize what it is we want or don't want, then when things don't go the way we wanted to we get mad, upset or offended, but we always fail to realize what it is that we didn't do... and that's communicate.
Im tired of random sex nowadays. Where does it go afterwards? More sex at anytime or just that one time. Im old fashion when it comes to that. Dates? Dinners and stuff like that. Not many one night stands and stuff like that. I try to appreciate it more with the art of it. But you right, its everywhere. Parties, movies, shops you see it everywhere. Its not fun when you can it easy, it should be a challenge
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ReplyDeleteIt's happened to the best of us, girl. SMH But at some point, we (women) have grown up and realized that random sex in less that sexy settings isn't so "hot" anymore. Look at it this way, he's still a horny teenager. You however, are a woman. *shrugs*
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