thing. You know by look in his eye what is about to go down. So you already know play by play what the night (in some cases few minutes lol) entails. Play one: He grabs your butt. CHECK Play two: He kisses your ear. CHECK Play three: He tell you he is going to beat it down (you already know his three pumps aren't worth your time) CHECK Four plays later, you are left bored, moaning out of habit and thinking to yourself "DAMN! Are you done yet?!?"How do so many of us men and women get to this point? I think there is no specific one answer but I will give you some insight on how to prevent it and how to bring that spark back into your relationship.
Don't bring sex into the relationship too early!
I know it sounds old fashioned and cliche but it is so true in many cases. I know sometimes the passion can be so deep that you can't even wait past the first night. lol But this can really kill a long term relationship. You pull out all your best trick from your freak'um bag ranging from doing the Passion Propeller1, the Lusty Leg Lift2 and even the Dirty Sanchez3(OH MY!) in the first month of dating. By the time month 6 rolls around, your sexual repertoire is mundane to say the least. If she is worth it, she is worth the wait.
Don't hype you
r partner up into thinking you are some type sexual Mandingo Warrior!
Hyping yourself up too much can BACKFIRE quickly! Don't tell her that you can work it so good that you will make her weave fall off when in actuality you don't even know where to put it or your bust as soon as you see some bare tid-days(titties). First impressions are lasting impressions! So, make sure that you can cash any check that you write when it comes to your "abilities".
Don't think all partners are the same and
like the same things.
I think this is a very important lesson that should be learned. Just as in life, it is easy to do things out of habit and comfortableness. There is a high probability if we go into the bedroom with these same tactics one person will be left unsatisfied and disappointed. Just because Ashley liked it from the back and to pull her hair does not mean Jessica likes it the same way. Hell, she might jack you up for even TOUCHING her hair (mainly applied to black women lol) This leads me to my next point.
Take the time to learn what your partner likes and dislikes.
As I said before, every woman is different. The sooner you realize t
his the sooner you will be one step closer to understanding the femal psyche4. I know that the most male brains are focused on one main goal BUT take the time to explore her body. It is easy to determine if a woman like what you are doing to her. If you are kissing down her back and she tenses up or you are not getting any verbal ques, OBVIOUSLY she does not like that. You will really know a woman is satisfied if she pulls you in closer or she returns the favor in the same mannor with out you asking. ;^)
Learn how to give oral sex the right way.
I dont know where else to bring up the topic. So I guess I'll slide it in (no pun intended lol) here. If this is a part of your relationship, learn the p
roper way to do it! I know i said that every one like differnt things BUT there are some things that you should NEVER do. If you are giving this to a man ladies, do NOT and i repeat DO NOT use your teeth! That ish hurts them! There is no tootsie roll or bubble gum in the center. So, there is no need to knaw on it. Also ladies, I know some of you have a weird fantasy of putting your finger or dildo in a mans butt. If he allows you to do this, he is NOT a straight man. This is offensive and disrespectly to expect your man to allow you to do this. Now on to you men, teeth on the clit=no, no, no! Think of the clit as the tip of your penis. It is very sensitive. Be delicate and gradually work up to more intsense strokes. I read somewhere that if you are unsure on how to perfor oral sex on a lady, spell out the alphabet with your tounge while doing it. I will take that a step further and say cursive letters ;)
Understand that is is not always about you.
This may not be the case most of the time because females are usually selfish in the bedroom from what I hear from my friends. But, you must be willing to satisfy her sexual needs before you are "finished". Many times, to set the mood, you can tease her in order to get her worked up enough that she is willing to do just about anything to your body. Kiss her in her most desired spots, rub her in the right places, and in between the two just put the tip in. I promise you, she will be begging you for more! She may even flip you over and take it from you! ;)
It does not always have to be a marathon!
Espcially at two in the morning when we have to work the next day. You may be suprised to hear this but we like quickies too! Just as men don't like slow passionate sex ALL the time, women don't like marathon sex all the time either. Some 
men LOVE to brag about how long they are last but that is not alway appealing to us. Women aren't faucets. The juices will stop flowing at some point. No woman likes a raw, swollen, and beat up vag in the morning. You may find this shocking but we don't want to be walking funny the next day either! No one wants to get those stares of "what does she have baking down there" No cute fellas, not cute.
Be willing to try new things.
I think this is the MOST important piece of advice that i can give! You can have all the right moves and say all the right things. But, if you have been doing and saying these things to same person since '98 it is tired and old by now. Maybe
you have always done it in the bed room. Maybe try it on the kitchen counter (make sure you wipe it down afterwards though. no one wants ass juice on their food the next meal), or go to a movie in the middle of the day that you know there is a high chance no one will be in (like No Strings Attached. you know there won't be ANYBODY watch that garbage) and do a little foreplay action and finish up the activities at home. Maybe even watch a porno (tons a free sites out there. Nobody buys them for $39.99 anymore) together and act out what's on the screen. My point is, just be willing to do things differently sometime. Be willing to explore. Sex needs to grow as long as the relationship grows. You have to switch it up and spice it up every so often so that you are in one of those "Damn! Are you done yet?!" situations.
I know it sounds old fashioned and cliche but it is so true in many cases. I know sometimes the passion can be so deep that you can't even wait past the first night. lol But this can really kill a long term relationship. You pull out all your best trick from your freak'um bag ranging from doing the Passion Propeller1, the Lusty Leg Lift2 and even the Dirty Sanchez3(OH MY!) in the first month of dating. By the time month 6 rolls around, your sexual repertoire is mundane to say the least. If she is worth it, she is worth the wait.
Don't hype your partner up into thinking you are some type sexual Mandingo Warrior!
Hyping yourself up too much can BACKFIRE quickly! Don't tell her that you can work it so good that you will make her weave fall off when in actuality you don't even know where to put it or your bust as soon as you see some bare tid-days(titties). First impressions are lasting impressions! So, make sure that you can cash any check that you write when it comes to your "abilities".
Don't think all partners are the same and like the same things.
I think this is a very important lesson that should be learned. Just as in life, it is easy to do things out of habit and comfortableness. There is a high probability if we go into the bedroom with these same tactics one person will be left unsatisfied and disappointed. Just because Ashley liked it from the back and to pull her hair does not mean Jessica likes it the same way. Hell, she might jack you up for even TOUCHING her hair (mainly applied to black women lol) This leads me to my next point.
Take the time to learn what your partner likes and dislikes.
As I said before, every woman is different. The sooner you realize this the sooner you will be one step closer to understanding the femal psyche4. I know that the most male brains are focused on one main goal BUT take the time to explore her body. It is easy to determine if a woman like what you are doing to her. If you are kissing down her back and she tenses up or you are not getting any verbal ques, OBVIOUSLY she does not like that. You will really know a woman is satisfied if she pulls you in closer or she returns the favor in the same mannor with out you asking. ;^)
Learn how to give oral sex the right way.
I dont know where else to bring up the topic. So I guess I'll slide it in (no pun intended lol) here. If this is a part of your relationship, learn the proper way to do it! I know i said that every one like differnt things BUT there are some things that you should NEVER do. If you are giving this to a man ladies, do NOT and i repeat DO NOT use your teeth! That ish hurts them! There is no tootsie roll or bubble gum in the center. So, there is no need to knaw on it. Also ladies, I know some of you have a weird fantasy of putting your finger or dildo in a mans butt. If he allows you to do this, he is NOT a straight man. This is offensive and disrespectly to expect your man to allow you to do this. Now on to you men, teeth on the clit=no, no, no! Think of the clit as the tip of your penis. It is very sensitive. Be delicate and gradually work up to more intsense strokes. I read somewhere that if you are unsure on how to perfor oral sex on a lady, spell out the alphabet with your tounge while doing it. I will take that a step further and say cursive letters ;)
Understand that is is not always about you.
This may not be the case most of the time because females are usually selfish in the bedroom from what I hear from my friends. But, you must be willing to satisfy her sexual needs before you are "finished". Many times, to set the mood, you can tease her in order to get her worked up enough that she is willing to do just about anything to your body. Kiss her in her most desired spots, rub her in the right places, and in between the two just put the tip in. I promise you, she will be begging you for more! She may even flip you over and take it from you! ;)
It does not always have to be a marathon!
Espcially at two in the morning when we have to work the next day. You may be suprised to hear this but we like quickies too! Just as men don't like slow passionate sex ALL the time, women don't like marathon sex all the time either. Some men LOVE to brag about how long they are last but that is not alway appealing to us. Women aren't faucets. The juices will stop flowing at some point. No woman likes a raw, swollen, and beat up vag in the morning. You may find this shocking but we don't want to be walking funny the next day either! No one wants to get those stares of "what does she have baking down there" No cute fellas, not cute.
Be willing to try new things.
I think this is the MOST important piece of advice that i can give! You can have all the right moves and say all the right things. But, if you have been doing and saying these things to same person since '98 it is tired and old by now. Maybe you have always done it in the bed room. Maybe try it on the kitchen counter (make sure you wipe it down afterwards though. no one wants ass juice on their food the next meal), or go to a movie in the middle of the day that you know there is a high chance no one will be in (like No Strings Attached. you know there won't be ANYBODY watch that garbage) and do a little foreplay action and finish up the activities at home. Maybe even watch a porno (tons a free sites out there. Nobody buys them for $39.99 anymore) together and act out what's on the screen. My point is, just be willing to do things differently sometime. Be willing to explore. Sex needs to grow as long as the relationship grows. You have to switch it up and spice it up every so often so that you are in one of those "Damn! Are you done yet?!" situations. Signed,
JustCallMeKei
Notes
1 Passion Propeller: Your man lies on top of you, entering you in traditional missionary style, but then — yowza! — he starts doing a 360-degree spin, all the while keeping his penis deep inside of you. As he's rotating and thrusting, help guide him around your body like a propeller would spin around the top of a helicopter. Make sure to lift his legs when they swing around over your head.
2 Lusty Leg Lift: Face your partner, standing with your legs shoulder width apart. Take your left foot and turn it out to the side while keeping your right one facing forward. Have him widen his stance, with his legs about three feet apart, and then ask him to bend his knees ever-so-slightly. Wrap your arms around his neck and have him put his arms snugly around your lower back. Here’s where it gets a little tricky: Pull your right leg up and place your right foot on his left shoulder, keeping your right knee bent. As he slowly enters you, ease into the vertical split by sliding your calf as far up his left shoulder as you comfortably can.
3 Dirty Sanchez: When you have anal sex and then wipe the crap on your partner's upper lip giving them a Hitler.
4 You will NEVER EVER dissect the female thought process entirely! Hell, we don't even know what we want most of the time.
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