Saturday, November 27, 2010

Independent Women Vs. The Old Fashioned Ladies


You, the man, are standing in the club ready to make your pick. The DJ asks, "Ladies, if you're independent put your hands up." You look around the club to see what looks like thousands of hands raised. But is that what really turns you on?

The modern woman, with the encouragement of Destiny's Child and a "Anything-You-Can-Do-I-Can-Do-Better" mentality, strive to be a man's equal in every way. We want the same jobs, to drive the same cars, play the same role in relationships????

I too believe women are capable of pretty much anything a man is, but I feel there is a time and place for everything. In my opinion, part of what makes a woman attractive, in addition to her physical exterior, is a level of respect for a man's role. You can be successful like Oprah, brighter than the North Star and make "Arab Money," but that is not intimidating to men, rather, it is unattractive if you don't know when to turn it off and let the man be your protector and provider.

I hear women complain about how immature men are, but if you are trying to play the role of his mother, and not his partner, what do you expect him to be?

I'm neither advocating for excessive male dominance, nor for the expectations of the docile woman, I just believe men need an opportunity to "do them." I don't think you will lose yourself entirely, you won't lose any self-respect or dignity, you won't lose any of the success you have earned by being a woman. By being a man's complimentary counterpart, rather than his combative competition.

Guys, am I right?
Ladies, do you agree? Do you disagree?


- Lauren
http://www.thebobbypen.com/

2 comments:

  1. I absolutely love this! It inspired an early morning Twitter rant! And if we look around, the truly "independent women" (as defined in your post) are the ones who build the most progressive and personally/mutually satisfying relationships. Way to tangibly express something that I'm sure is on a lot of modern but well-rounded womens' minds!

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  2. Most of the women of today are very pathetic which the real good old fashioned ladies were the very best of all back then and so much easier to meet as well. What in the world happened today? No wonder why many of us good men Aren't married now since it does really take two to tango which we really have No Reason at all to Blame ourselves either.

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