This is the official blog of Gevar, Jrome and Vaughn. We named it Ghidorah because King Ghidorah is a 3 headed dragon, and in some ways we can be a three headed beast. We chose to blog because many people were interested in our opinions and conversation that they participated in. This blog allows people to see our viewpoint and even challenge our ideas.
Friday, November 26, 2010
Is Chivalry Dead???
If chivalry is dead, who killed it? I was listening to an old school song entitled "Treat her like a lady" it made me think what happened to that man? One who would help a lady with her coat, open a door or pull out a chair. Chivalry is defined as a medieval system of principles, and customs that idealize a knight such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry towards women. Chivalry is also defined as a gallant gentlemen. In my current observation I find that courtesy and honor appear to be obsolete.Values and principles have been tossed out. Values and principles are learned behaviors .I tell my clients all the time if you do not know what you value . I don't know how to treat you. If you don't have values you can't possible have expectations. Being that values are learned I often wonder which generation discontinued the lesson or just skipped school that day. In a relationship men want to be treated like men and Women want and to be treated like a women. However before anyone can treat you as you deserve to be treated you must act accordingly. Men should be Men. If you don't know what a real man is find one to learn from. Women should be women ,again if you don't know what that is, find a real woman to learn from. Chilvary is not dead. As women we must understand that our independence can be both a gift and a curse. Its good to not depend on anyone. However its also good to allow someone to care for you. Allow him to open the door, hold the umbrella, help you with your coat,pull out the chair and initiate first contact. It's OK, it doesn't make you weak. Ladies for someone to treat you like a lady you must act accordingly. If you allow certain things and don't communicate that you need certain things you will not receive anything. Men you must step up and reclaim your position.A position of honor, bravery and gallantry. Both women and men must have clearly defined values and expectations. Again if you don't expected anything you will not receive anything. Chivalry will die if we don't nurture it. Don't allow her independent nature or strong personality scare you off. Treat her like a lady. Ladies allow a man to be a man.He can't be brave if you are jumping out ahead of him wearing the protective amour. No man wants a "hard,thugged out chick". Good girls win in the end! Chilvary is not dead but it's lingering on life support. Just my thoughts!!!
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I like this.
ReplyDeleteYou are very right, we have to have a goal, plan, or idea... a target. If you can't visualize something realistic and that applies to you, then you won't find success.
It is equally both men and women's fault that Chilvary is on life support.
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Nice blog! I miss those kind of songs too... they don't make em like that anymore! Bottoms up... real romantic! Lol & I agree! If you don't have a target, you're sure to miss. I'm aiming for chivalry!
ReplyDeleteI don't think chivalry is dead its just not instilled in people anymore. Most people just want to get right to the point not at of extra stuff like courting. I hold doors for ladies, open their cars doors and such but some women don't know what to do in current situations cause they don't commonly see it with people. I always put woman to this test, which is the door test. If you watch "A bronx Tale, the movie then people will know what im talking about. Its still here, its just not a strong value
ReplyDeleteI like that you mentioned women with strong personalities. I think a lot of men have a misconception when it comes to that. Just because a woman is assertive and sure of herself doesn't mean you have nothing to offer her as a man. She wants to feel just as special and as much of a woman as any other woman. But like you said, the woman also has to allow the man to be a man. Finding that balance can be tough, but it's necessary.
ReplyDeleteGood post Carmen!