Oh, He's Just A Friend.

Over the years I would wonder why we don't try to date our opposite sex friends. Just seemed like a common practice that was acceptable to me. Date someone that you have an interest in and you both share similar interest and have an understanding of one another.
It was just a thought though. So I left it alone until the past weekend.



This past weekend, Season 2 finale, of the Office, got to me a little. No, I wasn't laying in the bed pouring my emotion in some tissue. I just kind of had this feeling come on me.

For those who don't watch the Office (shame on you and your soul), there are two characters named Jim and Pam. They start off as really good friends and you can tell that they are attracted to each other but Pam is engaged (for about 3 years). Anyway Jim can't take it anymore and tells her how he feels. I'm leaving it at that. Go watch the show and put some pleasure in the form of laughter in your life.

The heavy feeling I got, from watching the show, was because it took me back to when I had friends that I found attractive and the only reason I became their friend was because I found interest in them.



I use to actually try to get to know a woman before I wanted to date her. All my logic just made it seem logical. It really makes sense, but apparently only to me.
Do you know how hard it is to be attracted to a friend? You don't want to destroy the friendship by making an advance but you aren't satisfied with the way things currently are. The worst part is when they actually choose to be with someone else, and never considered you an option. That hurts. But being the good friend you are, you just smile and wait. Always trying to be there for support, and at the same time slowly fading away. Makes you feel heavy. Makes you worthless in a sense... Only cause you aren't good enough to be chosen, even thought they'll tell you that that's not it.



As you can tell I've been through a number of these and it's not a great feeling. Especially when they are done wrong and still overlook you, the person who is always there for them. It really makes no sense to me. At the same time, i would be a fool to sit there and wait on you to make mistake after mistake after mistake in your life. To let my life waste away with yours. At least you have moments of satisfaction (sorry about that, my jadedness came out). It really does make you wonder though. Especially when you hear females say that they hope their husband becomes their best friend.



Maybe I'm the one that's doesn't really understand anything anymore. I'm crazy for thinking that a married couple should know more about each other than their friends. Maybe I'm the backwards one.

Do you know how dumb this actually sounds? You hope your husband becomes your best friend rather than you actually marrying your best friend. I don't really understand this concept at all.

I heard a girl say that she would never tell her boyfriend secrets and things about her until they got married....

Why wait until you get married to be honest? And then act confused when you dump all your crazy on a dude and then get mad cause he is acting "unfamiliar." Seems to me like you are the unfamiliar one in the relationship.



I seriously thought the idea of building a relationships was to get to know one another so that you can form a decision whether to end the relationship, remain just friends or move on to the next phase.

Why do we dismiss our friends as potential lovers? Why do we make them the last choice and not the first one?

Maybe its because if we have sex with our friend then it would ruin the relationship.... Then again why is the issue of sex one of your top reasons for eliminating your friend as a good mate? That shouldn't even be an issue. Especially if that person is always there for you when you need them to be. That's what should truly matter in my opinion.
Personally I would rather be with someone I trust and know than someone I barely even know.





We take unnecessary risk, in my opinion. Always looking for the unknown, the "exciting and new" than the familiar and true. I also don't think dating your friend can ruin the friendship, that is if you go about the romantic relationship the right way. Just because you date doesn't mean that you can't be friends. You can't be friends probably cause one or both of you lacks maturity or their could be other issues.

Who knows. I'm just throwing it up in the air for people to think about