FRIENDS... How Many Of Us Have Them...

Friends... The age old question... can men and women be "Just Friends?" and i dont mean friends with benefits or possibilities. Most women want this to be true, and most men pretend it cant be... or is it most women pretend it cant be and men think it can... hmm seeing that i have shared both friendships and "friendships" lol i like to think it can... in a mature environment that is. If you meet a girl/guy in an environment that is not suited for it i doubt you can keep it... lets just say professional lol.

The Club/Bar: Chances 1-5%

More than likely dont plan on them being that best friend... why you ask? simple... because you met them in a place with very low lighting, alcohol, and music that makes one notice PHYSICAL features above all else. The Club/Bar scene is meant for fun and interaction with people usually randoms. Not to say it isnt at all possible to meet someone worth while in the club but the chances are by far shortened when compared to most other places. Mainly because of the mindset people have when thinking of or attending these places. Is it possible never-the-less? Yes. All things are possibly possible, lol, and thats just truth. Too often we may see something we like then get something with it we didn't.

Examples:

• New Car - Very low gas mileage
• New Credit Card with high limit - and matching interest rates
• New Apt - 4 new bills... monthly

@ the Mall or out Shopping: Chances 10-25%

It can be a good place to meet someone... BUT, with any outing you have to assume that person is not alone. This day and age few females go shopping alone mainly because its not safe but they also dont want to be approached by every guy walking. Guys tend to avoid going out alone because well... most think it makes you look lame.... and well yea it can. Yet there are somethings that both sexes need to notice, accept, and avoid. Guys when you see a girl with the entire family... avoid that, y? because its somewhat disrespectful to their family outing. Ladies accpet the fact that if you dress a certain way you will have a certain approach you should expect, or the less clothes the more they are thinking "ima drill TO-nite". Guys, notice, when she is with her girls you just went from a 50% chance to probably 25% depending on how many friends are with her... the fewer the better the less bashing you will recieve on the walk over to holla. Ladies, notice, if you really want his attention... this is gona be a long shot but DAH WELL... try.... talkin to him 1st... i know, i know, you dont do that... but he will remember you reguardless.

Work: Chances 15-25%

Now im usually firmly against this. yet i know people who have and continue to make it work... literally. The work place can be the best and worst all at the sametime. Depends on the amount of trust each party has and if the limits are known. If there is a strong jealousy, it probably wont work because they will see you look/glance/stare at eye candy and you WILL catch hell. If you are given the ability to look you should know how long you can and what face you may be able to make (the "Ooooh Isht/DAAAAYUUUM/mmmhhmmm" face will get you dropped or hit...beware!). Minor problems in the relationship can cause MAJOR problems in the work place... especially if you're with somebody who doesn't know how to act (gets loud, cuss alot, and dont care who sees). Though it could be that consistant support and motivation to keep working and working hard.

Park/Zoo/Museum/Sporting Event: Chances 25-50%

Most anywhere else is a good place to meet someone because you may already have some insight into what they may or may not like. In ceratin settings some people are more open to whats around them and may be more open to the people around the due to the laid back setting. Yet it can be a place for utter failure... but with the other options its whats best. You may run into the family setting but im sure they would be more open to that situation than the typical HUNTING in the mall lol. basically the more inspirational or beautiful the setting the better the reception and attitude you will come across.

Before you go around looking for the next relationship just be aware of where you are looking. You wont look for good food in an alley. You wont look for a job in the hood. So why look for "the one" on the nearest street corner? Your choices can affect you future, and if you choose to look in the little places for a big gift dont be suprisd when it comes up short. But hey like i said "all things are possibly possible".

Love, Live, Life yall