Atleast that's what we would ALL love to think... Yet end of the day, money or not, it won't bring you happiness... A few days ago a friend and i were discussing relationships, happiness, finding happiness, and finding it in a relationship. Started as just a little venting about relationships and problems compare/contrast typical things most people discuss when venting, yet when we hit the topic of his/her happiness it got really interesting... enough to write about atleast.
When going into any relationship we always want to find someone compatible and usually find someone that is so different, yet so like ourselves, we fall into a state of amazement, confusion, and bliss... in other words, we fall in love. The most confusing part of any relationship is the lack of knowing even when you "know" you know. The assumptions, the second guessing, and the all out ignorance we then show when trying to be the perfect match.
Ex. His P.O.V. - "I just know she is gonna love this gift" only to get that "eh... its alright(smile)" Her P.O.V. - "He is gonna love this sexy dress i just got" only for him to not notice AT ALL.
So it pushes us to dig deeper to impress and gives a bit of a thrill, that we don't know our partner as well as we think. We hope to have alot of the same views but feed off the views we don't share. Some people feed off the monetary things we own or aspire for, some feed off the ability to do for self, some feed off family... but its becoming more rare to find those who feed off making as many people around them happy. We focus so much on self that we try to overlook others when unhappy.
Ask yourself this?
- Can you overlook someone who is sitting alone crying with out asking what is wrong?
- Are you willing to give something for nothing?
- Can you put yourself to the side if it will help another?
- Are you willing to give up a day to help someone in need?
- Can you ask for something and not do something in return?
Sometimes we focus on self to the point that we grow cold to others... now myself being a realist i say i "have love" for everyone i meet even though i don't like, or trust them til given a reason too. It's just something i feel should be earned; Yet, i also feel respect is something that should be given, until there is little to know need for respecting that person. I respect and have love for everyone but i have no reason to believe you are not an idiot until you show me so... contradictory? A little! But try this on...
- You meet a random person who is kindly giving out candy, You just so happen to like what they are giving out yet you respectfully decline while watching others take a piece and keep it moving.
- Now think, why didn't you take a piece what you really wanted one? Because you didn't trust them, you thought they were krazy, no one is that nice, people don't just give for no reason. All of these can apply.
- If a week later you saw the same person there doing the samething would you turn it down then?
Sadly some people really do things out of the kindness of their heart, but when you come across this you look at those taking it as if they were krazy, ignorant, gullable. When we allow our fiend for money to cloud our views on making things "better" in life. True enough we can always want better for ourselves but sometimes you have to think about the good "karma" that can come from giving more that expecting to recieve. Some of you may take what im saying and agree yet do nothing but is your greed really something you want to have that "Can't Tell Me Nothing" mindset? Or should you just give a little bit of time, money, help to someone in nee wether it be listening to a friend, helping at a school/shelter, or just taking a moment to ask someone who is sitting alone crying "Are you ok?"
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