Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts

Monday, January 31, 2011

How Do You Want It?

How Does It Feel?

how does it feel

Many many females feel they just KNOW what a man wants and needs when in all honesty its probably a whole lot simpler than you may think. For certain "HOLIDAYS" some feel as if they have to do something extra sexy/special when actually the fact that you've shown up has done it all... (i know krazy right lol) Yet don't get me wrong if you like going all out for your man believe me he enjoys it just maybe not how you want him to. There starts the problem and the lack of a problem all in one so now... lets break in ALLL the way DOOOOOOWN....

romantic bed

So you went to Vicky Se. to get that nighty that will show off your curves to an extent he may have never seen before. sexy nightyYou cut off all the lights, light some candles, put on some nice slow sensual music. May spread sum rose petals on the floor from the entrance to the bedroom where you have the satin(silk if u got the money) sheets ready for action. He comes home, walks in the door and calls your name, asks where you are as he follows the petals, gets to the door and sees you on the bed, drops his bag n takes off his tie. As he approaches the bed starts unbuttoning his shirt then he asks... "what's all this for?(record scratches)". You tell him, "it's because i love you." and he proceeds to tear and rip away at everything you have on as he does his own. Leaving your brand new nighty bedside without a mention of it at all... there starts the problem! Cause THAT nigga and give you NO credit for ALL that damn work you spent ALL that time doing.

The only thing i have to say to that is... you did it to yourself babe. While you have some men that do appreciate that from the spouse/wifey/gf/boo whatever, it does occassionally go unnoticed because the lead up to it is great but the experience is what MOST men are in it for. Now if you're lucky you have a man that is willing to give you great 4play 4play for as long as you need to get... READY! lol (If you dont have this kind of man subtle hints or a simple "(domination)role playing" will help) Men always notice your curves with or without clothes and very few men dont know their womans every curve(unless they just caveman that azz every night). Sexy clothes are always nice but not needed, you can probably get the same rise out of him just by being at home on the bed naked waiting for him. You could even try waiting for him at the front door (if you know what time he gets home) because after a long day a nice "session" is always enjoyable in an empty house.

maid

If you listen to music like i do, alot of R&B songs can give you ideas of when and where you can surprise your man.

sailor girl
  • R. Kelly - Sex in the Kitchen **
  • Tony Terry - In the Shower **
  • Silk - Meeting in My Bedroom
  • Boyz II Men - I'll Make Love to You
  • Donell Jones - Can't Wait
  • Dru Hill - Real Freak
  • Dwele - Lay It Down
  • Eric Benet - Chocolate Legs***
  • Ginuwine - Sex
  • H-Town - Knockin Da Boots*
  • Jamie Foxx - Freak'in Me
  • Jodeci - Freakin You
  • Jon B. - Can We Get Down
  • LSG - My Body
  • R. Kelly - Bump N Grind

Ok i'll stop there for now... but you get my point, sexy cookthey may not give exact details but from each of those songs its not just sex or just love but the act. The act is what most men focus on, now it's not right TRUE. Yet when tempted with the female body most men's thought process shuts down to some extent (now im giving away secrets so please take note!!!). If you want your man to do ANYTHING ask him while naked... I bet he will say yes to damn near ANYTHING not because he didnt hear you but its like a kid when you have candy, "It's A Wrap!" Now me personally i appreciate the nighty, and the candles, and oils, and petals. Yet some heels and a little whipped cream will have the same effect.

If you really REALLY want to get your man in the mood and change it up without spending a while lot or thinking you've done too much. Act like you are cleaning the house with little to nothing on, put on your tallest boots, black panties, and bra and make him call you by an alias.rihanna Do something to tease him while he is on the phone, computer, or working from home. If you want a special night do something out of the norm. Every valentine's people expect roses and chocolate candles and a nighty. Throw him a hook, pull out a whip (will not work on all but then again you never know), put on a costume, role play. If you like the flower petals and candles let him do that for you and let him know that he should. Honestly men are so much simpler than you think, but if you want to go sexy, something spicy, something pleasureable? Try something besides the "love scenes" you see on your favorite dram show. Go with something that makes the imagination run and temp in the room rise. For most guys the best time to do something out of the norm is.... (wait for it)...... ANYTIME!!! the less expected time is the best time. Best places to cattch a man... EVERYWHERE!!! If he hops in the shower(bathtub)... hop in with him and give him reason to feel like i have to bathe again lol. If he is in the garage working on something give him reason to take a break. Stressed out about work give him reason to be stress free, watching the game? Show him how to use that 15min halftime LMAO.

overthinking

Dont ever allow yourself to OVERTHINK what men want, our wants are easy good love, good food, good music, good sports(entertainment), good view, and a good drama free atmosphere. So instead of wondering so much as to what you should do for your man and wondering what he WANTS i just told you... now his individual needs.... needs..... NEEDS!!!, thats different find that out on your own Ms. Don't think you have to do something sexy for your man because you are sexy in his eyes you just have to find a way to make him see the freak in you that we all know is there.......... yes i said "we all KNOW is there", because everyone can be freaky, but there are only a few Freaks lol

Now that we have that out of the way tell him "How you want it, and how it feels" lol

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

We're Not ALL Dogs... But Then Again...

In a previous blog, Once A Cheater!... Always A Cheater?, i touched on things that can lead to making "us"(men) cheat. Such as, "Problem is with it only taking 1-3 women to turn a man into a "Dog", like so many claim we all are" and i still stand by this statement... For most men it only takes a few women to make us "cold hearted dogs", but it can also be understood that if a guy has been scared and hasnt let go then im sorry to report "you're prolly gonna get screwed". Unfortunately today im not defending that type of nigga... cause its yo turn niggas!!!

All Men Are Dogs

Too many times "we" as men allow ourselves to take the hurt and pain from every TRIFLIN HO in the past, bottle it up, and use it as a reason to not let ANYBODY get close to our "heart". Which in some cases i again understand but its 2011 its time to let go... You are not helping yourself you're just spreading the pain to them to start that cycle ALL over again. The worst part of "playing the game" is you are just giving them that same pain you experienced. It's not "being a man", it's being a coward. You can't lead someone on and then leave them hanging in limbo because YOU didn't know how to let go of the heart break YOU experienced. So yea your ex cheated with your best friend, or she stepped out with your brother, or she became yo ex-girl with a girlfriend. Instead of bottling that pain up and using it as ammo we need to practice letting go. You know stop take a second and BREATH BITCH... sigh.

I think it's funny to see so many guys out here trickin off these girls but when they have a daughter they dont want a nigga to do it to her. Well POPS welcome to the world of Karma! Just because you fucked over a ton of girls doesnt mean your child will experience it, yet at the same time you can't expect it to go super great. Sometimes we just have to be real with ourselves and understand that yea we can go out and be hos. Though you can't lead someone on to think they have a reason to love you when you have a no strings attached mindset. I think at some point we have all suffered from the addiction to freedom but if you can't be real with the person(s) you're messing with then you are lying to yourself about YOUR happiness.

Hopeless Romantic

Growning up i think we all start as hopeless romantics(please look it up if u dont know) yet with tv, music, and the older men around us we pick up on the tricking off. Once we get that 1st taste of heart break most of us move on still hopeless romantics hoping to find happiness. Then it happens again thats when you can make the choice to keep hoping or become what you know you really don't want to be but will accept because "every otha nigga do it".

There's nothing wrong with being tough, there is something wrong with being cold. Any man that tries to say he is happy fucking every girl in sight he is lying because at the end of the day everybody wants that one body to come home to. Some front and say they don't care, yet they do. No man whats to be cheated on just like no man wants to be the "side dick", yet we treat women like they should love that position. Why continue to live up to a stereotype, when you can encourage the next young brother to do better and expect better? With life comes pain, but todays pain doesnt have to be tomorrows.

children are our future

We can always look at what hurt us, what can hurt us, what will hurt us, but we have to let go. Keep it with you as a learning point but let the pain, anger, and hurt go because if you dont you are going to start that cycle withnot only the next girl but the next generation. If all men are dogs why not try to be "that nigga" that's not. Be the guy who actually does give a shit about a person enough to tell them the truth. If you have to lie to someone about being with them when you have no intentions to be that is the same as cheating. If you have a "side chick" and a "main chick" you're cheating. Basically if you have felt the pain before why spread it to everyone else? Thats just more pain for her to deal with and possibly pass on to what could have been a good nigga.

There can't be truth without care... meaning maybe you should give a shit about the people you talk to... even if its just a cut buddy, give a shit enough to atleast let them know, "hey this is all it is, if you aren't happy with it we need to move on", might seem kinda crazy but believe me its a whole lot easier and better for both parties.