How Do You Want It?

How Does It Feel?

Many many females feel they just KNOW what a man wants and needs when in all honesty its probably a whole lot simpler than you may think. For certain "HOLIDAYS" some feel as if they have to do something extra sexy/special when actually the fact that you've shown up has done it all... (i know krazy right lol) Yet don't get me wrong if you like going all out for your man believe me he enjoys it just maybe not how you want him to. There starts the problem and the lack of a problem all in one so now... lets break in ALLL the way DOOOOOOWN....

So you went to Vicky Se. to get that nighty that will show off your curves to an extent he may have never seen before. You cut off all the lights, light some candles, put on some nice slow sensual music. May spread sum rose petals on the floor from the entrance to the bedroom where you have the satin(silk if u got the money) sheets ready for action. He comes home, walks in the door and calls your name, asks where you are as he follows the petals, gets to the door and sees you on the bed, drops his bag n takes off his tie. As he approaches the bed starts unbuttoning his shirt then he asks... "what's all this for?(record scratches)". You tell him, "it's because i love you." and he proceeds to tear and rip away at everything you have on as he does his own. Leaving your brand new nighty bedside without a mention of it at all... there starts the problem! Cause THAT nigga and give you NO credit for ALL that damn work you spent ALL that time doing.

The only thing i have to say to that is... you did it to yourself babe. While you have some men that do appreciate that from the spouse/wifey/gf/boo whatever, it does occassionally go unnoticed because the lead up to it is great but the experience is what MOST men are in it for. Now if you're lucky you have a man that is willing to give you great 4play for as long as you need to get... READY! lol (If you dont have this kind of man subtle hints or a simple "(domination)role playing" will help) Men always notice your curves with or without clothes and very few men dont know their womans every curve(unless they just caveman that azz every night). Sexy clothes are always nice but not needed, you can probably get the same rise out of him just by being at home on the bed naked waiting for him. You could even try waiting for him at the front door (if you know what time he gets home) because after a long day a nice "session" is always enjoyable in an empty house.

If you listen to music like i do, alot of R&B songs can give you ideas of when and where you can surprise your man.

• R. Kelly - Sex in the Kitchen **
• Tony Terry - In the Shower **
• Silk - Meeting in My Bedroom
• Boyz II Men - I'll Make Love to You
• Donell Jones - Can't Wait
• Dru Hill - Real Freak
• Dwele - Lay It Down
• Eric Benet - Chocolate Legs***
• Ginuwine - Sex
• H-Town - Knockin Da Boots*
• Jamie Foxx - Freak'in Me
• Jodeci - Freakin You
• Jon B. - Can We Get Down
• LSG - My Body
• R. Kelly - Bump N Grind

Ok i'll stop there for now... but you get my point, they may not give exact details but from each of those songs its not just sex or just love but the act. The act is what most men focus on, now it's not right TRUE. Yet when tempted with the female body most men's thought process shuts down to some extent (now im giving away secrets so please take note!!!). If you want your man to do ANYTHING ask him while naked... I bet he will say yes to damn near ANYTHING not because he didnt hear you but its like a kid when you have candy, "It's A Wrap!" Now me personally i appreciate the nighty, and the candles, and oils, and petals. Yet some heels and a little whipped cream will have the same effect.

If you really REALLY want to get your man in the mood and change it up without spending a while lot or thinking you've done too much. Act like you are cleaning the house with little to nothing on, put on your tallest boots, black panties, and bra and make him call you by an alias. Do something to tease him while he is on the phone, computer, or working from home. If you want a special night do something out of the norm. Every valentine's people expect roses and chocolate candles and a nighty. Throw him a hook, pull out a whip (will not work on all but then again you never know), put on a costume, role play. If you like the flower petals and candles let him do that for you and let him know that he should. Honestly men are so much simpler than you think, but if you want to go sexy, something spicy, something pleasureable? Try something besides the "love scenes" you see on your favorite dram show. Go with something that makes the imagination run and temp in the room rise. For most guys the best time to do something out of the norm is.... (wait for it)...... ANYTIME!!! the less expected time is the best time. Best places to cattch a man... EVERYWHERE!!! If he hops in the shower(bathtub)... hop in with him and give him reason to feel like i have to bathe again lol. If he is in the garage working on something give him reason to take a break. Stressed out about work give him reason to be stress free, watching the game? Show him how to use that 15min halftime LMAO.

Dont ever allow yourself to OVERTHINK what men want, our wants are easy good love, good food, good music, good sports(entertainment), good view, and a good drama free atmosphere. So instead of wondering so much as to what you should do for your man and wondering what he WANTS i just told you... now his individual needs.... needs..... NEEDS!!!, thats different find that out on your own Ms. Don't think you have to do something sexy for your man because you are sexy in his eyes you just have to find a way to make him see the freak in you that we all know is there.......... yes i said "we all KNOW is there", because everyone can be freaky, but there are only a few Freaks lol

Now that we have that out of the way tell him "How you want it, and how it feels" lol

YOU HAVE BEEN DENIED!

Everyone has been rejected in their lifetime. It actually happens on a regular basis, whether we realize it or not. I know I experience rejection daily. I can't even begin to tell you how many times my proposals have been rejected. When I look back on some of my rejections I i tend to laugh at them, and many of them I am thankful for being rejected.

Rejection doesn't always have to be a negative thing. We just look at it in a negative way because no one likes to be denied anything. Even if it's something they didn't need to begin with. If you were given everything you ever asked for, how would that help you? Where is the benefit in that? What lesson will you ever learn? How would you ever grow? Thinking about it, to never be rejected would mean that you are perfect, and we all know that perfection doesn't exist in humanity.

Rejection CAN make us stronger. It allows us to see and assess our faults (or the direction which we have chosen to travel). People who handle rejection well basically learn from their faults become better people. However, I said "can" because the people who handle rejection poorly, tend to either completely shut down or ignore that they may have faults. Those are the people who point fingers at others or punish themselves too harshly.

Take a deeper look at yourself. The next time you get rejected, ask better questions so that you can make better decisions and move forward in life. Ask yourself if you really need to be in the situation you were (or currently) trying to place yourself in, whether it be a job, a relationship, or whatever. Rejection doesn't always have to be a negative thing (it just doesn't feel good). You have to maintain a positive outlook on your future, stop over analyzing your situation, and believe that things will work out for the best.

My dad sent me this message a couple of months ago: Disappointment happens to all of us. The Bible says that the rain falls on the just and the unjust alike. The Bible says that all things work for the good of those who love God and are called unto His purpose. So remember, the joy of the Lord is out strength. So there is no need to stay disappointed, God has promised it will all work to our benefit.

So keep your head up people.

Have You Had Your IGNORANCE Today? (Pt. 1)

I took time and sat back the past 2 weeks with one thought on my mind... "How much ignorance does media spit at me?" Now given alot of people will look at this like "WHHHHAAAAAAAAA?!?!?!?!" But think about it, i can recall a day and time where i listened to the news and a kid, watch shows to learn, and listened to the radio for more than te newest dance song. Now true, people can argue that hip-hop has its ups and downs as far as what gets played on the radio, television has curved views(depending on the channel), the internet can be a TOTAL lie(depending on the source). Yet if you think about it look at how much these media outlets have changed. I remember hearing random bombs, explosions, and word scratches when listening to Master P on the radio("Im the captian of this mutha(scratches-BOOM) TANK"). 2 Lve Crew had the shortest song on the radio, "Me So Horny", and it got played MAYBE once a week(lol). I used to wonder what words they were bleeping out because a$$, fuck, bitch, ho, shit...ect, those words were unheard of on the radio. "Girl you look good won't you back that THANG up"(Juvenile - Back That A$$ Up) i coulda sworn that was the actual version... maybe that was just me. I never heard the DJ's cuss or even hint at it, never felt bad about making my mixtapes (literally TAPES), and never had to worry about moms looking at me like "WTH are you listening to?" Sadly i hear all of that now. This past weekend i was listening to a station (those of you in B'ham know which one i talking about) and they had a "post commercial comment" for some small time/local rappers where they were very blount about taking about where they were what they were smoking and drinking. I dont even have kids but i was shocked and disgusted. Not because it was out of line, even though it was, i was more shocked because it was 2pm on a sunday afternoon when i heard this. I mean REALLY?! Of all the things that get me heated about the media it's probably the local news channels ("that really grinds my gears").I can think of a day and time when i stopped watching the nws simply beacuse of all th bad news they seemed to have. For a week my Jr. year in highschool all i heard was bad news, the only good news they had was talking about Doo-Dah-Day (Dog parade for those who dont live hear). It actualy made me sad because it was around the time that we were planning to go to war IN Afghanistan and local deaths were rising. All i could wonder is, where is the silver lining? where is the upliftng moments for the people? The news is filled with statistics but they never give you the adverse side of it (ex. 4.7% of African Americans voted Tue, 13% of the nation is African American, is that 4.7% of the 13% OR 4.7% of the nation?). I know that all news isnt good news but if your follow up story to a murder is "free balloon day" dont be suprised if i no longer want to watch the news. Cable TV has run wild with the things they choose to say, and allow to be said on their station/channel/show. Given somebody pays to have these channels up and running but at what point do you stop and say "wow, ok maybe we are going a little too far." im mainly speaking of FOXNews, because they have such a skewed view its almost sad. Whats scarier is people believe it. I watch FOXNews almost daily just to see how skewed todays views are and i watch CNN/MSNBC for the opposite view. Yet the show(s) i have found to be the best are the ones who make fun of the actual truth (The Daily Show, The Colbert Rport). Alot of people avoid these shows because they think they are not actually being truthful about whats going on but they are in a very, VERY sarcastic way. I have always been a fan of Political Satire simply because you can see the truth and lies in that which we call our gov't. These shows/channels have much more power than i think we realize they can start a whole movement and can end a power shift. (ex. Glenn Beck's "Rally to Restore 'Honor' to the Nation"{Aug. 28th 2010} vs. John Stewart & Stephen Colbert's "Rally to Restore Sanity"{Oct. 30th 2010}). VS. Basically what i'm saying is, some media is good some is bad but reguardless something that can be seen/heard on a regular basis needs to be censored. Because one day what will your kids be hearing on the radio and seeing on tv. Ignorance is everywhere but just because its everywhere doesnt mean we have to boast it up.... Oh Yea this is just Pt1...... i got more for that azz stay tuned!