3 Random Rants

Cursive

I was sitting at home trying to write down some of the albums I wanted to download and add to my computer. I found myself frustrated by how slow I was writing cause by the time I wrote one thing down, I’d forget what I wanted to download next (my brain likes to run faster than my fingers can keep up at times). So, I kind of asked myself why I don’t write in cursive any more. It was one of the most random thoughts but it had a point. Why don’t I write in cursive anymore? One of the reasons is that when I really get in a hurry I can’t read whatever the hell I wrote. This is really sad. Then I always have my smart phone with me so there is no reason to carry a pen anymore (I do anyway because it’s just something I find myself doing). Also because I haven’t written in cursive in a long time, I had to think about how to compose some of the letters. While I was practicing how to write (really sad again), I thought about why we ever had to learn to write in cursive to begin with. I honestly don’t see the purpose of ever learning to write in cursive other than to learn how to write your signature. I guess for the most part it was suppose to be some means to write faster… considering the even flow used to construct letters. I remember one of my teachers marking off my paper because she couldn’t read one of the words I had written…. I mean seriously, who can read everyone’s cursive anyway? So many people’s handwritings are unique and illegible anyway, I don’t see how you can mark off on someone’s paper because you found it difficult to read their cursive, especially if you required that they write it in cursive (not to mention as the student you could barely read your teachers cursive comments on your paper… double fail). I was told that they are removing cursive from the syllabi of many classes. It is basically a dead skill, especially with the existence of smart phones, tablets, and computers. With so many people demanding “talk to text” we’ll probably stop teaching kids how to write…. At least we all read more.

Hand Sanitizer

Hand sanitizer is awesome. It has some great uses: it kills 99.99% of germs, which helps your children limit the amount of germs they spread around, and it can get permanent ink off of your office desk (that’s what I like to use it for). However, the thing that makes me wonder about it is, how much of a purpose does it really have if it doesn’t remove the dirt and grim from your hand? Like if you had dirt and oil on your hand does the hand sanitizer just sanitize the oil and dirt? Cause it surely doesn’t remove it. And once the dirt and oil is sterilized, does that make you “clean”? Cause you are technically walking around covered in sanitized dirt and oil. Then again I would hope that you don’t try to bath or wash yourself in hand sanitizer.

Don’t Judge Women by the Clothes They Wear

…. And why not??? I honestly feel like if you dress a certain way then you should be expected to be perceived and treated a certain way. If a dude is seen wearing a jersey, dirt jeans and some Crocs, then most people will not take him that seriously, so what makes a female any different? Time and time again we tell people not to judge a book by its cover (basically, don’t judge people by how they look on the outside but the quality of what lies within them), but then again we also say that image is everything. Image is a lot though, it basically sums you up to a certain extent or another, but it isn’t everything. How you look is important because it isn’t just about how you feel but it’s also about how people who do not know you will view you. It actually is an important concept to come to terms with. That being said I believe it is pretty justifiable to not really take someone seriously if they are dressed inappropriately. That does not mean be disrespectful or anything of that sort. I’m saying that I’m not going to take you seriously if you are wearing summer clothes in the winter time, so why would I take you seriously if you are walking around half naked all the time? What am I suppose to think about a female who invites me to her place and she then changes into some booty shorts? How am I suppose to respond to that, I clearly see your booty, and you clearly were fully aware of what you put on so… what sort of image am I left with to have of you? How am I supposed to think that you are a mature respectable woman when you are walking around with your ass out? I know you feel the breeze on your booty. You don’t see females or men who take themselves seriously enough showing too much skin or much skin at all. I’m not saying that you have to wear a business suit for me to take you seriously (I’ve seen women fail at wearing appropriate business attire. Showing too much cleavage is a fail). There are plenty of ways to dress appropriately and be comfortable, there are also plenty of ways to dress for fun and be sleek and sexy without the risk of a nip slip increasing to 90%. I don’t care how much of a gentleman a dude is, I promise you that he will try to take a peek at a nipple. I’m not going to beak my neck to see some titties but, hey, my day will become a little brighter just by seeing one… and two… AWWW MAN!!!! I’m slightly joking, but seriously, what you wear and how you wear it says things about you whether you realize (or accept) it or not. That’s why I wear a tie to work, and why when I go out I try to wear something appropriate enough and comfortable enough for me to enjoy wearing. I’m not going to dress in a shirt and tie just to go to the store for a Saturday run, then again I’m not going to run in the store wearing running shorts or tights. Some things just really aren’t appropriate to wear. I love to look nice when I feel nice, but I’ve never had the desire to dress or feel slutty. Nudity and (too much) skin should be reserved for the comfort of you being home by yourself, not in other people’s faces… there is a reason why mostly porn stars wear fishnet.

Self Reflection in September

So a couple of weeks ago, I took a vacation to visit my two wonderful friends and to witness them get married. As I spent my week with them, I evaluated my life and how everything is currently going. I started to think about all the things that the people in my life are going through and experiencing. I honestly feel like everyone… and I do mean EVERYONE around me is getting married or having kids or both. I couldn’t help feeling a little left out. It almost felt like I missed out somewhere… then I’d snap out of it to enjoy my week. It was crazy that I keep feeling like I was missing out on something in life. I felt like I had no purpose up there at times but we’d end up doing something then I would snap me out of it. It was a weird feeling. By the end of the week I was a little happy to be going back home to my normal routine. I thought the feelings I felt and the thoughts I had while I was in Virginia would fade away when I got back home. I don’t even know why I even tried to fool myself by trying to believe that… In other words, I was wrong.



This entire month has been crazy in my mind. Every week I get reminded that everyone around me is having babies or getting married. Everywhere I turn around someone is getting engaged, about 5 people at work have had babies this year, Jrome just welcomed his baby girl a few months ago, and on top of that I’ll be an uncle in about 5 weeks. All the babies in my universe is actually keeping me away from dating… not that I’m having sex or anything, I just feel like it’s a sign telling me to be careful and not jump into something, as stupid as that sounds. And the baby thing didn’t bother me until this past weekend when I went to see my brother. I felt kind of left out in the family in a sense because of this ordeal with him expecting his first born and my parents becoming grandparents. I really haven’t given the pregnancy a second thought until this weekend. I had this strange feeling like he stole something from me. It was crazy; this wave of spitefulness came over me. I’m the first born and I’ve been taking my time to “do things right.” Find the right person for me, establish myself at work and live on my own to experience the world around me and then settle down. It seems like I get criticized more than anything these days, while everyone is praising him and behind him while he is expecting his first born son. It was crazy because I love my brother to death, I’m proud of him, and I stand behind him in whatever he does (as long as it’s positive). It’s really exciting going through this with him and watching him step up to the plate as a father. Then he will probably be getting married within the next year too. Nothing but good things coming around the horizon and I had the audacity to feel jealous…. Its things like that that really make me mad at me. Glad I checked myself on that too, because that’s the same foolishness that leads me to read too much in my past and think of ways I could have salvaged my failed relationships with various people. Or carry feelings of resentfulness toward people who I love and who have done nothing to me.



It’s crazy that the pressure to reach that next level in life is affecting me like this. That’s my flesh and blood too. It told me a couple of things about myself though, both good and bad. I’m more aware of who I am as a person which means that I’ve grown a lot. It also showed me that I’m still not ready yet, but I’m ready to try to be ready for whatever life has for me around the corner. I just have to lower the walls that I’ve placed up. And I know that I wasn’t just jealous of him but I was jealous of everything around me too. My friends and family members having babies and getting married got to me. I keep having these feelings that I’m feeling left out. Everyone has the same thing to talk about and I don’t. I’ve always wanted to have a family too, so of course that’s the source of it all. I guess being surrounded by all this family building; I got a little discouraged based on my current situation. Which is silly to me, because why would I want to be in a rush to start a family? Like that’s going to make everything work out. I’m not ready for any of that yet. And I don’t want to struggle trying to provide for a family right now. I do not have the mentality for that right now. It’s almost like I see being single as a problem. But that’s not really the case though. I just want to be in a good and fulfilling relationship. It’s getting boring watching television and movies by myself, or trying to gather a bunch of people up to go somewhere. At the same time I’m still too set in my ways and selfish. I’m willing to set all that aside though. I’m willing to do all of this because I ultimately want a family so I believe that my time will eventually come. I’m not in a rush but that doesn’t mean that I can’t put myself out there as being available and approachable. Plus I do like getting to know people… cool people at least. And there is only a few ways I know to meet new people. The main thing about meeting new people is that you have to be approachable. No one likes being around someone who is too guarded. Then to meet that “special” person, you have to be in the right place at the right time and be open-minded with discernment. But really and truly if you practice discernment, then the location and time will fall into place.



Anyway, I thought I share a little personal tidbit about myself and how I currently feel in one way or another. At least how I understand how I feel at the moment. Like I tell everyone else, things will get better, but it starts with me first.

Congratulations to the Co-Bloggers/Statement to Our Readers

Man, we fell off like T.I.'s music career didn't we? And very similar to his career it was our fault and I'd like to take this time to apologize for not posting. It's not like we are burnt out on material to talk about... I seriously doubt that will ever happen. We started this blog to share our personal experiences and viewpoints with you guys and to be honest we underestimated the level of dedication it takes to maintain a blog. So we apologize, and we will do better at making sure that we give you some post on a consistent basis. It won't be on a week to week basis but we will try to deliver them to you on a consistent basis.

On that note, it's not like we haven't been doing anything in our 7-8 month absence. We have been living our lives. We are all in our mid twenties after all, and as you all may know or not know, your 20's are a pretty crucial time in life. It's when you started actively taking strides in being the person you were meant to be (or want to be). For most of us this means and includes starting a family and getting into your career. I've done my congratulations on a number of occasions to my friends and co-bloggers but I want to officially congratulate them from the blog.

This year Jrome has been preparing for the arrival of his first born child. I'm quite sure that he will be telling us about how it feels to have her in his life right now and how he is viewing life now as a father to a beautiful baby girl. I'm happy that my boy gets to experience love and joy on a entirely new playing field. I know he'll be a great father and I can't wait to she how he handles this change in his life.

Gevar just recently got hitched to one of our guest writers, Memorie. I'm excited about all my people's milestones in life, but this one is something I did not want to miss at all, maybe because I feel like i had a nice part in this union. I mean, I did introduce them to each other, but i of course can't take all of the credit, if any really because they made it happen and I'm proud of them. I pray they have a wonderful life together, I truly believe they will. HOPEFULLY G will be bringing us some insight on his first year of marriage and the things he has and is experiencing. It would be very refreshing and I'm sure you guys would love to read about what he has to say.

What about me you ask? Well, everything is pretty much on cruise control right now. Except I will be an uncle in a couple of months, not a drastic life changing experience like marriage and a child but who knows, maybe I'll get a dog and share how it feels to be a dog owner.... I'm slightly kidding. I've actually started trying to date again, so prepare yourselves for some pretty funny, sad and interesting blog post from me because i will be attempting to share my experiences and you guys will have to bare with me as i get a little personal about my life.

So, I hope you guys are still with us and continue to journey on through life with us and our opinions. As always please comment and share, we love insight.