How Do You Want It?

How Does It Feel?

Many many females feel they just KNOW what a man wants and needs when in all honesty its probably a whole lot simpler than you may think. For certain "HOLIDAYS" some feel as if they have to do something extra sexy/special when actually the fact that you've shown up has done it all... (i know krazy right lol) Yet don't get me wrong if you like going all out for your man believe me he enjoys it just maybe not how you want him to. There starts the problem and the lack of a problem all in one so now... lets break in ALLL the way DOOOOOOWN....

So you went to Vicky Se. to get that nighty that will show off your curves to an extent he may have never seen before. You cut off all the lights, light some candles, put on some nice slow sensual music. May spread sum rose petals on the floor from the entrance to the bedroom where you have the satin(silk if u got the money) sheets ready for action. He comes home, walks in the door and calls your name, asks where you are as he follows the petals, gets to the door and sees you on the bed, drops his bag n takes off his tie. As he approaches the bed starts unbuttoning his shirt then he asks... "what's all this for?(record scratches)". You tell him, "it's because i love you." and he proceeds to tear and rip away at everything you have on as he does his own. Leaving your brand new nighty bedside without a mention of it at all... there starts the problem! Cause THAT nigga and give you NO credit for ALL that damn work you spent ALL that time doing.

The only thing i have to say to that is... you did it to yourself babe. While you have some men that do appreciate that from the spouse/wifey/gf/boo whatever, it does occassionally go unnoticed because the lead up to it is great but the experience is what MOST men are in it for. Now if you're lucky you have a man that is willing to give you great 4play for as long as you need to get... READY! lol (If you dont have this kind of man subtle hints or a simple "(domination)role playing" will help) Men always notice your curves with or without clothes and very few men dont know their womans every curve(unless they just caveman that azz every night). Sexy clothes are always nice but not needed, you can probably get the same rise out of him just by being at home on the bed naked waiting for him. You could even try waiting for him at the front door (if you know what time he gets home) because after a long day a nice "session" is always enjoyable in an empty house.

If you listen to music like i do, alot of R&B songs can give you ideas of when and where you can surprise your man.

• R. Kelly - Sex in the Kitchen **
• Tony Terry - In the Shower **
• Silk - Meeting in My Bedroom
• Boyz II Men - I'll Make Love to You
• Donell Jones - Can't Wait
• Dru Hill - Real Freak
• Dwele - Lay It Down
• Eric Benet - Chocolate Legs***
• Ginuwine - Sex
• H-Town - Knockin Da Boots*
• Jamie Foxx - Freak'in Me
• Jodeci - Freakin You
• Jon B. - Can We Get Down
• LSG - My Body
• R. Kelly - Bump N Grind

Ok i'll stop there for now... but you get my point, they may not give exact details but from each of those songs its not just sex or just love but the act. The act is what most men focus on, now it's not right TRUE. Yet when tempted with the female body most men's thought process shuts down to some extent (now im giving away secrets so please take note!!!). If you want your man to do ANYTHING ask him while naked... I bet he will say yes to damn near ANYTHING not because he didnt hear you but its like a kid when you have candy, "It's A Wrap!" Now me personally i appreciate the nighty, and the candles, and oils, and petals. Yet some heels and a little whipped cream will have the same effect.

If you really REALLY want to get your man in the mood and change it up without spending a while lot or thinking you've done too much. Act like you are cleaning the house with little to nothing on, put on your tallest boots, black panties, and bra and make him call you by an alias. Do something to tease him while he is on the phone, computer, or working from home. If you want a special night do something out of the norm. Every valentine's people expect roses and chocolate candles and a nighty. Throw him a hook, pull out a whip (will not work on all but then again you never know), put on a costume, role play. If you like the flower petals and candles let him do that for you and let him know that he should. Honestly men are so much simpler than you think, but if you want to go sexy, something spicy, something pleasureable? Try something besides the "love scenes" you see on your favorite dram show. Go with something that makes the imagination run and temp in the room rise. For most guys the best time to do something out of the norm is.... (wait for it)...... ANYTIME!!! the less expected time is the best time. Best places to cattch a man... EVERYWHERE!!! If he hops in the shower(bathtub)... hop in with him and give him reason to feel like i have to bathe again lol. If he is in the garage working on something give him reason to take a break. Stressed out about work give him reason to be stress free, watching the game? Show him how to use that 15min halftime LMAO.

Dont ever allow yourself to OVERTHINK what men want, our wants are easy good love, good food, good music, good sports(entertainment), good view, and a good drama free atmosphere. So instead of wondering so much as to what you should do for your man and wondering what he WANTS i just told you... now his individual needs.... needs..... NEEDS!!!, thats different find that out on your own Ms. Don't think you have to do something sexy for your man because you are sexy in his eyes you just have to find a way to make him see the freak in you that we all know is there.......... yes i said "we all KNOW is there", because everyone can be freaky, but there are only a few Freaks lol

Now that we have that out of the way tell him "How you want it, and how it feels" lol

SEX WEEK

First off, we hope everyone is starting off 2011 the right way. Since its February those New years Resolutions are being tested, stay strong.

We want to thank all the readers who have been with us from the beginning and even the new comers who are reading our post, we really appreciate the interest and the support. With that being said, this week our main topic is sex. I brought up the idea that we make this a week long subject mainly because I didn't want to leave my post hanging without some counter arguments. The other reason is because, its sex. We all talk about it, we all think about it (or not try to think about it) whether we are having sex or not. It's just something that is always popping up in some shape, form or fashion. It has become who we are. It has and is being used to define us sometimes. It's important and it isn't so important. It's complicated and simple all at the same time.
Everyone has an opinion on the subject, so this week we took the opportunity to allow other writers to be heard on the subject of sex. There really is no formate, its just some of our writers posting about what they want about sex, attraction, love, interest, etc.

We hope you guys enjoy the week. Feel free to join in on any conversations we start.

VP

Needs vs. Wants

I've grown up admiring comic book superheroes. I read comics and watched plenty of television programs and movies with superheroes. I took it all in with fascination and excitement. I remember wondering why anyone would want to be a villain. Do villains just wake up and say they want everyone to hate them? I seriously doubt they do. But then again they are completely fabricated so they probably could. In many cases, villains and heroes are very similar. What really sets them is their understanding of wants and needs.

We are always having a constant battle with our wants and needs. Are needs are as basic as they come, nothing more and nothing less. Every time we want something it's always more than what we need. For instance, we need food, water and shelter. Food and water are needed for our basic survival and shelter is to protect us from unfavorable elements that could prove harmful to us. We don't need to eat steak everyday and drink beer and alcohol everyday but there are some people who want to. We don't need to smoke and drink, in fact consuming too much of either has proven to be deadly.... Actually consuming too much of anything is deadly. We do all these because we want to.

Wanting too much is selfish. We all know that selfish is thinking and caring only about your interest, your benefits, your WANTS, regardless of other people's wants and needs. Selfishness is probably one of the most common characteristic that make up a vast majority of villains. Its never ok to lose sight of the bigger picture. Our gifts are not meant for us to capitalize on. We all have a gift not just designed for us but one used to assist others. What good is a genius if he ne'er creates anything that can improve the effectiveness of the work force as a whole? What good is a surgeon if he doesn't save lives? What good is a doctor who can find a cure for a disease? Selfishness serves no one any person and eventually leads to people turning their backs on you.
On the other side of that, people need help all the time but you don't need to baby them. We do not need to sugar coat and save people from all of their problems. Saving people from all their problems is spoiling them. No one wants anything that has an expired self life. We need to step up and stand behind every decision we make. If it was a bad decision we need to find ways to fix it, if its that much of a screw up that we need to call for help that's fine. To use people as a crutch is ok if it's only temporary. I crutch was never designed to be a replacement for walking. Its a walking aid used to assist you until you gain the strength to walk on your own.

We all know some one who leans on people too much. It's ok to let that person go. Doesn't mean that you don't love them any less, but actually shows that you love them that much more cause you believe that they have the strength to tackle their own problems. At the end of the day they should have more confidence in themselves and not animosity toward you for allowing them to find their way out. The only reason they get upset with you is because they failed to see the strain they were placing on you, that's because they couldn't see beyond what they wanted. You being there for them and still being concerned about their well being is proof enough that you care whether they realize it or not. Tough love is still love. When did love mean giving someone everything they wanted?

Needs are pure. They are the basic essentials they we have to have for survival and interaction. Wants can be tainted, they aren't always pure and we will never go not wanting. For the most part we are satisfied because we took care of a need. We can always go beyond that though. Sometimes with disastrous results due to our selfishness. One of the reason why we need to walk in love.

I'm going to leave you with two thoughts that I heard yesterday:
God works IN us so that he can do something THROUGH us. God's grace doesn't just end with you. There is no end to God's grace.

Don't trust your own discernment if you are not operating in love.