Can't Tell Me NOTHING!!!

(Kanye West - Can't Tell Me Nothing) La La La La (HEY) Wait till I get my money right La La La La (YEAH) Then you can't tell me nothing right (Why are we...late) Excuse me, is you saying something? Uh uh, you can't tell me nothing (YEAH) You can't tell me nothing (HAHA) Uh uh, you can't tell me nothing.

Atleast that's what we would ALL love to think... Yet end of the day, money or not, it won't bring you happiness... A few days ago a friend and i were discussing relationships, happiness, finding happiness, and finding it in a relationship. Started as just a little venting about relationships and problems compare/contrast typical things most people discuss when venting, yet when we hit the topic of his/her happiness it got really interesting... enough to write about atleast.

When going into any relationship we always want to find someone compatible and usually find someone that is so different, yet so like ourselves, we fall into a state of amazement, confusion, and bliss... in other words, we fall in love. The most confusing part of any relationship is the lack of knowing even when you "know" you know. The assumptions, the second guessing, and the all out ignorance we then show when trying to be the perfect match.

Ex. His P.O.V. - "I just know she is gonna love this gift" only to get that "eh... its alright(smile)" Her P.O.V. - "He is gonna love this sexy dress i just got" only for him to not notice AT ALL.

So it pushes us to dig deeper to impress and gives a bit of a thrill, that we don't know our partner as well as we think. We hope to have alot of the same views but feed off the views we don't share. Some people feed off the monetary things we own or aspire for, some feed off the ability to do for self, some feed off family... but its becoming more rare to find those who feed off making as many people around them happy. We focus so much on self that we try to overlook others when unhappy.

Ask yourself this?

• Can you overlook someone who is sitting alone crying with out asking what is wrong?
• Are you willing to give something for nothing?
• Can you put yourself to the side if it will help another?
• Are you willing to give up a day to help someone in need?
• Can you ask for something and not do something in return?

Sometimes we focus on self to the point that we grow cold to others... now myself being a realist i say i "have love" for everyone i meet even though i don't like, or trust them til given a reason too. It's just something i feel should be earned; Yet, i also feel respect is something that should be given, until there is little to know need for respecting that person. I respect and have love for everyone but i have no reason to believe you are not an idiot until you show me so... contradictory? A little! But try this on...

You meet a random person who is kindly giving out candy, You just so happen to like what they are giving out yet you respectfully decline while watching others take a piece and keep it moving.

Now think, why didn't you take a piece what you really wanted one? Because you didn't trust them, you thought they were krazy, no one is that nice, people don't just give for no reason. All of these can apply.

If a week later you saw the same person there doing the samething would you turn it down then?

Sadly some people really do things out of the kindness of their heart, but when you come across this you look at those taking it as if they were krazy, ignorant, gullable. When we allow our fiend for money to cloud our views on making things "better" in life. True enough we can always want better for ourselves but sometimes you have to think about the good "karma" that can come from giving more that expecting to recieve. Some of you may take what im saying and agree yet do nothing but is your greed really something you want to have that "Can't Tell Me Nothing" mindset? Or should you just give a little bit of time, money, help to someone in nee wether it be listening to a friend, helping at a school/shelter, or just taking a moment to ask someone who is sitting alone crying "Are you ok?"

YOU HAVE BEEN DENIED!

Everyone has been rejected in their lifetime. It actually happens on a regular basis, whether we realize it or not. I know I experience rejection daily. I can't even begin to tell you how many times my proposals have been rejected. When I look back on some of my rejections I i tend to laugh at them, and many of them I am thankful for being rejected.

Rejection doesn't always have to be a negative thing. We just look at it in a negative way because no one likes to be denied anything. Even if it's something they didn't need to begin with. If you were given everything you ever asked for, how would that help you? Where is the benefit in that? What lesson will you ever learn? How would you ever grow? Thinking about it, to never be rejected would mean that you are perfect, and we all know that perfection doesn't exist in humanity.

Rejection CAN make us stronger. It allows us to see and assess our faults (or the direction which we have chosen to travel). People who handle rejection well basically learn from their faults become better people. However, I said "can" because the people who handle rejection poorly, tend to either completely shut down or ignore that they may have faults. Those are the people who point fingers at others or punish themselves too harshly.

Take a deeper look at yourself. The next time you get rejected, ask better questions so that you can make better decisions and move forward in life. Ask yourself if you really need to be in the situation you were (or currently) trying to place yourself in, whether it be a job, a relationship, or whatever. Rejection doesn't always have to be a negative thing (it just doesn't feel good). You have to maintain a positive outlook on your future, stop over analyzing your situation, and believe that things will work out for the best.

My dad sent me this message a couple of months ago: Disappointment happens to all of us. The Bible says that the rain falls on the just and the unjust alike. The Bible says that all things work for the good of those who love God and are called unto His purpose. So remember, the joy of the Lord is out strength. So there is no need to stay disappointed, God has promised it will all work to our benefit.

So keep your head up people.

The Other Perspective

Sometimes......... you just need to hear it from somebody else........ so this time........ i'll let him handle it...

So..... there you have it..... well have a great week.....