So You Angry, Huh?

I just had to post this to compliment what Gevar posted. I agree with him. Chill out with the craziness. It really makes no sense to give in fully to your emotions. That's why we have a brain, you know, to reason think and plan. So many people want to shut their minds off just so they can "feel with all their heart." I thought the heart was suppose to be pure? So where does the anger come from? That's neither here or there.

Yes, we make the conscious decision to follow our family, friends, associates, teammates, co-workers and church family on these social networks. We make that decision. Why we do it is based on various reasons that boil down to the fact that we wanted to. That also is besides the point at this moment. Just because you are angry does no mean that you need to out someone's personal life out or voice your extreme hatred for a religion or political opinion. Yes, you have the right to do it, but just because you have the right to something doesn't make it acceptable.

I have to draw lines at certain issues. Exposing your ex husband's crossing dressing habits cause he didn't pick the kids up before your date. Going on a bad date, with someone you didn't even bother giving a chance to. Airing out your roommate's personal business cause of some stupid argument the two of you had. Going off on your mom because she took your car away. Blasting out your boyfriend/girlfriend cause they cheated on you or you think they cheated on you, is terrible. WHATEVER. LESSONS LEARNED. Now you found out that you don't need to waste your time in that relationship. Or maybe there are some issues that the TWO of you need to talk about minus the rest of your extended social circuit knowing about it. i have no idea why everyone wants to have more drama in their lives than they already have.  I know I don't. Plus it's not worth trying to ruin someone's life over.

Just keep it to yourself. Stop trying to blast people out, and if you want to do it... be as general as possible, like we are going to do on this blog. We don't mean or want to personally attack anyone, but we do what to make people aware that they may have to change for the better. Think of our blogs as rubber bullets. Yes, we did shoot you, but we weren't trying to kill you.... maybe this was a bad metaphor but you get the picture.

Ranting post will be brought up a number of times on this blog. You have to be mindful of what you say. The words that come out of your mouth are more power than you realize, and they do give you a certain image. Keep it together and it is ok to keep your mouth closed

VP

Nothing Is Worse Than...

...a grown man (or woman for that matter...but ESPECIALLY a man) who can't control his emotions and deal with them in a constructive manner. We all know someone who may get upset at a situation or a particular person and consistently the FIRST thing they do is take to TwitMyFaceSpace (Twitter, Myspace, Facebook) to publicly display their unstable, vulgar, errant emotional breakdown/rant for the world to see...exposing way more information than necessary to a group of people who could care less to know or read it. Searching for approval, affirmations, or just desperately needing someone (anyone) to "like" their status update for the value of a self-esteem boost. ... :-\

If you feel offended right now, good. And I unapologetically say to you, as VP would put it, "Go sit in the corner and think about your life." ...I'm personally putting you in time out (lol...but I'm so serious)....That's the nicest, most mature way I can put it versus suggesting that you cease existing any further, but that's just not me.

So I'm listening to Mike Posner's new album 31 Minutes To Takeoff because in the past, his mixtapes have caught my attention because they are pretty decent so I decided to give the album a shot. Let's just say I got it for free and I'm still inclined to ask for a refund. A monetary refund and also a refund of the 38 minutes of my life that I lost listening to this mess. But I digress...

Keeping in line with the topic of this post, there's this one terrible (albeit hilarious) track cleverly entitled "Cheated" which is dedicated to his ex who apparently did him dirty. The hook goes a little something like this:

i should've cheated on you ohh ohh i was everything you wanted and more i should've cheated on you ohh ohh nobody told me i was dating a whore i should've cheated, cheated i should've cheated cheated i should've cheated, cheated i should've cheated cheated

Later in the song, Mikey takes it to another (unnecessary) level and proceeds to drop the full name of the chick he's singing about....come on son. It worked for Eminem......you just sound lame and bitter. Listen for yourself...

I guess I can see his reasoning behind deciding to put the song on his debut album. Every artist wants to connect with his/her fans and the way to do that is talk about something they can relate to. The thing he didn't account for is the importance of TACT. First of all, there are two (three) sides to every story. Secondly, why not make a song about how you were hurt and how you got through it....if you really want to connect with and help your fans. I doubt when/if he performs this at a show, there will be a gang of dudes in the front row holding each other and singing/crying/name dropping along with him. MAN UP!

It's perfectly ok to feel these types of feelings. We are humans, not robots, so we will be hurt and disappointed from time to time. But it's NOT ok to purposely publicly display these destructive feelings to those around you. It's toxic.....like sitting in your garage with the car on letting the carbon monoxide fill up the room. What are you accomplishing? Besides showing the world how immature and emotionally unstable you are. Think before you speak....don't let your mouth be a loose cannon. Take time to breathe, write your errant feelings down on paper where only you can read them or call a good friend and vent. Please don't do it publicly because..

"Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn." (c) Rhett Butler, "Gone With The Wind"

- GB

Start The Day Off Right

When I first moved into my place I wrote some encouraging words on my mirror. It's not always easy getting up every morning and going to work. Not always something you look forward to. I was determined to put a smile on my face every single day. If I made myself smile every morning then even if the day went bad then I know that I started it off right. I refuse to say that I "woke up on the wrong side of the bed". The funny thing is, I place my bed against the wall so that I only have one way to get out of it.

You have to eliminate the excuses in your life. Be thankful that you were able to get up and take care of yourself every morning. Be thankful for your job, your children's health, your health, a roof, money in your pocket, food in fridge, soundness of mind, etc.

 You don't necessarily have to write on your mirror, but do something to get you going every morning. Along with writing notes, I would purposely make myself laugh. It was as simple as just talking in funny voices. So  your day by cracking a joke at yourself (not one that leads your mind down a dark path). Read an inspirational quote. Write yourself a letter before you go to bed and read it in the morning. If you have a spouse or a partner, write them a letter or note of daily encouragement. You have to stay positive.

A strong start makes for an easier finish.
Start each day with a smile. It's a new day
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-VP